I've been wondering about something for a LONG time...I guess this is a good place to bring it up. Here's the issue (I don't call it a problem because it works). I can not come to an orgasm unless I have some kind of fantasy going on in my head during sex. It has nothing to do with the guy, because it has been the same with multiple partners, it has nothing to do with foreplay or my level of excitement. I don't have any problem reaching orgasm as long as I fantasies about something. Even if I play out my fantasies...it still doesn't happen. Is that wierd?? Any one else with a similar issue???

Hi. I just read your post and I am the same way. I don't know why but I think it might be because I had sex toys before I actually had sex with a guy and back then I must have used fantasies to achieve orgasm and now it's the same. What about you?

I didn't have sex toys, but I have used fantasies to orgasm since I was 10 or so! (Before I even knew what I was doing) So I guess it's kinda stuck there. If I didn't have a wild imagination, I probably whould never c*m.
I'm glad I'm not the only one...
thanks for your reply

It is probally a good thing that you can fantisize about differnt things! I know I cant have sex if the tv is on b/c I catch myself listing to it! It seems alot of women have problems reaching orgasm due to the fact they have a thousand things n thier minds! Good for you! Just as long as you dont call out the persons name you are fantisizing about! That would be a whole other topic!