My relationship lasted 4 more months after he said he wanted some "space". Yeah I was emotionally damaged and probably still am. We were together for about a year but he wants to stay friends and he went from boyfriend to friend in like a week in his eye's. For me I got hurt again when I learned he had been seeing someone for 4 weeks when we had been broken up for 6 I still don't understand how he could move on that fast if I meant so much to him. I am very bitter now and haven't talked to him much and when I have it was online, and I am very much a smart *** with my comments. I don't believe he cheated on me, because that is the one thing that he has been hurt by in the past, and we were very clear on from the start. I would like to be friends with him but I don't know how to get there since I am still bitter especially since he is seeing someone else so fast. I had told him some things that were bothering me before we broke up, and know he is always telling me how he has fixed them or made them better. Is playing mind games? do I have any chance of being friends? oh yeah and his buddy is hitting on me now. Any opinions on it all are appreciated.
If I were you, I would go for drinks with his buddy. What harm is in that. Don't ponder on him, unless you think there might be a chance he will come back, that's if you want him back!!!! Sometimes, I think we make dates quickly after a break up is to see if you really had feels for another person, I have to say that's why I have done it. Dinner and a movie can be considered an evening out, not a date!!
Just because he went out with someone that fast after your breakup doesn't mean he never cared. When I broke up with my ex I actually started talking to other guys, surprisingly. (before I never even imagined life without my ex) Now don't get me wrong - I loved him very very much and a part of me still does, well I mean the "old" him who was nicer (obviously I'd still be with him if he was still the same person, but he's not so..) The reason why I am starting to talk to other men is because I know that I have to move on no matter what. Yes, my friends will be there for me in times of need but I know I need affection and caring from a guy too. It's a different kind of love. I know that I'm not ready to get into a real relationship yet but a good thing for me to do now is at least accept that fact and startmeeting people.
You should try doing the same! However I disagree with the above posters - going out with his friend isn't the best choice, it will probably cause some awkwardness. There are a lot of guys out there, don't pick his friend!!!
