Question:
Hi there, i was recently in a 2 year long relationship and things started getting a bit rough never getting along and always fighting because of the stress that we were both going through. . . my boyfriend decided that we should take a break for a bit and get things figured out . . . a month later we got back together and things were back to normal . .. everything was goin FINE! then one day he decides he just does not want a girlfriend n e more and it was done! a week later i find out he's with another girl already and they started dating. Well in that time i had eventually moved on and found someone else who i was interested in(nothing serious though) well about a month after my ex and the new girl ahd been dating he phones me and says how much he misses me and so on and he broke up with his girlfriend to try and get me back before he moved away to go to school. He said he realized how much he really loved me and missed me and how i was the only one he wanted to be with . . . well now i don't know what to do . . take the one that i loved for 2 years back knowing that our realtionship would be wonderful again . . . or give the new guy a chance beause we never did get too serious??? Please help this is bothering me sooooo much!!

Choices:
Try the new guy out
Take the old love back

 

I know that it is very difficult to accept that love is over, but it might be time for you to do that. Do you really think that everything is going to turn out fine and dandy because you get back together? You said that you were fighting and arguing all the time and that is why you broke up the 1st time - well there are reasons why people break up and I don't believe in going back with exes. When I left my ex he begged and begged me to take him back, and he still does. Trust me I thought about it, I didn't want to imagine life without him, but I know myself and I know that he is not the kind of person I could spend the rest of my life with. It's sad, yes, and I had my fair share of tears and wallowing in my own pity alone in bed with sad music, lol, but I'm young and have many opportunities ahead. I deserve respect! We all do! So my advice, don't go back to your ex because it will only hurt MORE the 2nd time you break up (you will) and don't rush too fast with the new guy, take it easy!

good luck sweetie