well I talked to him last night and it was before we started to have sex. started off by saying I do not know if you have noticed that I have been wanting to ask you a question he said "no what is it", I said well it kind of bothers me because I do not know what this was? he said what? I said us I am not sure what it is he asked me what I thought and I said well I know What I am feeling and he said well what is that I told him I like you and I enjoy spending time with you and I like what we do together and he replied with the same I like you too. But all I can say is it is what it is, (ok here;s where i messed up I should of turned around and said well what exactly is it are we just friends with sex buddies or do you feel more for me but I chicked out) I asked that nothing be different between us he said ok becaue I do like him and value his friendship. I told him I know you have had a pretty tough year and i’v been there he said yea it was a tough year. He agreed that he liked me and what was going on with us he just wasn’t sure what I ment with the what is it part. I told him I did not want him to think badly of me he said he did not. I was like I’m sorry if this is freaking you out by me coming up with this all of a sudden he said no not at all. I asked him if I was making any sense he said yes I guess. I told him I am not making any kind of demands or anything like that. He said he was not sure what to say but that it is what it is, he was like do I make sense? Meaning the relationship. well even thought i did not get the answers I wanted because of it being my fault and I did not ask the proper question I should of said no i am not sure what you mean by It is what it is, he just said relax ok I asked him again not to change anything between us and I care for him alot. I do feel alittle bit better but I am still hurting becasue I findit real hard to tell people I like alot my feelings.So it is what it is I guess I am going to either hang in there and see what happens next or confront him and ask him what he actually ment, bye that thanks for letting me rammble Oh and in the end we had sex. so what should I think it is just sex right thats what I am getting
First I think that if you just wanted to be friends, then you should not of gone down the sex path. I think when sex coms into play it changes things alot. I am not a man, but I think a man can have sex and not be attached or feel the closeness. I think in women after you have sex that you have given them part of you...and it isnt just sex. I think we read more into it then most men do.... Sounds like to me if sex isnt meaning the same to him as it is with you, you are going to be hurt and the freindship will be hard to have survive.... To me him saying it is what it is.......is he isnt ready for any emotion conection (and I think it sounds like you want the emotional conection) For what ever reason being to him he isnt ready for the closeness, if you can deal with that and take it for what it is worth he may come around in time. But you will need to relize that you are in a different place then he is right now. But I dont think that he is using you for sex alone. my opion only....Best of luck
thanks those were my thought exactly he recently got out of a serious relationship and we talked about that finally. And did tell me he had feeling for me which was cool and that he vauled our friendship so much and I told him so do I I did not want to put it at risk but I let him know where I was at and feeling and he understood and asked me to hang in there he was trying to figure alot of things out me being one of them so I like him enought to hang out and wait at least he knows where i am coming from
He started this whole relationship thing, he was the one who started everything. WHich I am not complaining about he was the brave one, I would of just shut my mouth and not said anything about my feelings, just to let ya kown I did not take it down the sex path I wanted more then him I guess, and still do I will hang in there thanks for your toughts
