My sister and I go to our friend Laura's church for the first time on Sunday and there's this super cool guy there.laura knows the family really well.god, he had it all! beautiful eyes,little bit of ruggedness, a good head on his shoulders. It turns out, he works in town, and we end up giving him a drive into town on our way home! (of course, the girls put him in the back with me.i was like poor guy!)We even had similar tastes in music.I want to know more about him and get to know him better.How do I do that-through my friend? Our would that seem too desperate?

The problem is, my friends keep telling me that I should date this other guy that is in the picture, even though i've heard from a reliable source, that he's a bit "sketchy". I mean, I know a date doesn't mean marriage, but I'm just not feeling him (not even half as much as this first guy). He won't accept a "just be friends".Am I setting myself up for something bad? What now?!

Why do your friends want you to date this guy that is sketchy? Forget what they are saying, listen to YOURSELF! The first guy sounds great, PLUS you met him at church! haha. If your not having strong enough feelings for a guy, and you think he's sketchy, why would you even consider it? Doesn't make sense to me...just go after the first guy...that was an easy question!

Oh, since your friend knows him better than you (the church guy) I think you can go through her in a way to get to him. Maybe you guys could plan to hang out in a group, with your friends and him and maybe some of his friends. That way she can set up whatever you guys will do. Then, when your all hanging out you can talk to him, hang out, get his number/email or wahtever, and from there you can hang with him/call him yourself! Sounds fool-proof to me Good luck girl!