Not sure if this is where I should be posting but here it goes. This guy I have been seeing for going on 9 months now, I have not been able to tell him my true feelings for him. In the start of it all we were friends hanging out and all that stuff and then he started the hook up it was a few weeks before we had sex though. I asked him what was going on with us I told him I did not want him to think i am a **** coming over and doing what we do, and he said he knows I am not a **** and we were taking it as it goes (kind of like seeing where it goes) Ok that was a few months ago. I just do not want to be used for just sex with him, he seemes like a real nice guy, I asked him not to mess with me, he knows i have a not so happy past. I sit here and wonder if he is just doing it for sex? But it would be putting alot at risk cause we work together and all, He went home this weekend and when he was there he called me and all and then when he was coming home he asked me to do something that night. SO it is kind of like he missed me. and when he went on his vacation he called me everyother day and he never said we have a date and he said it when he was away and then he told me he was looking forward to coming home and sunday night ( Our date night). I guess what I am trying to find out is I know there are plenty of people out there who have been in the situation before with the firend thing how do I tell him I like him alot more now? Do you guys think he has feeling's for me or is it just a sex thing, I need opinions and situations please any help would be great. I just do not know how to tell him. I know there are people out there that have been faced with this before this is my first time and I am going on 28 yrs old, and i can not tell him, I think he took the first step by putting his arm around me and snuggling with me that night (which is a big step to take ) when you are just friends so I know I should take the next step and see where the whole relationship is going thanks for you help
I do not think that he is one of the bad guys I mean he told me were taking it as it comes. I think he is a nice guy and we do have fun together he makes me laugh,I do not want to push him and have it not work out, ya konw if you tell it too early. I need to know how to tell him i like him more I know well at least he said he does not think I m a **** because of what we are doing. How do I do it anyone else out here that was faced with the same situation have any stories or advice thanks I just do not want to be that piece again I am a little over weight and it is almost like why is he with me? I do not think highly about myself so i am scared that he is thinking this way. Gosh if I did not value my friendship with him at all I would tell him but I am so afriad of losing him as that.
Now, I don't mean to be rude....but what you need to do is JUST ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS FROM YOU...and TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL.
Only he can tell you how he feels and what his intentions are. You are 28 years old and this is not a high school crush, so take charge and get the answers you need.
Also, being a little overweight does not make you unattractive...the sooner you realize that the better your relationship(s) will be.
junebug...ring a bell??? so why are you trying to degrade yourself with this s..t thing??? that was an old phrase used long ago to put a woman down and keep her in her place if she should wish to pursue her desires of sex out of wedlock, and now is considered normal...your an adult now, your not saving yourself for that wedding day, so consider your emotions for this man, talk it out, and go to bed if you wish, and take wanns...advise ok? ok.
I think you need to look at the whole picture and ask your self where you want this relationship to go......Are you waiting for him to make the commitment before you, so you can just follow...... I think when you are with him, you would be able to tell if he cared for you in your lovemaking. There is just a difference in making love to some one for just sex, or if you care for the person that you are with..... Just remember keep the communication open and talk talk talk.....that is the only way you both will know where you are going and what the other person wants. If it is all one sided it will never be a lasting relationship, one person will always be doubting him/herself. Tell him where you are at and see things going. Talk to him after you lovemaking sesion both parties are always open then.
ok well I talked to him last night and it was before we started to have sex. started off by saying I do not know if you have noticed that I have been wanting to ask you a question he said no what is it, I said well it kind of bothers me because I do not know what this was he said what I said us I am not sure what it is he asked me what I thought and I said well I know What I am feeling and he said well what is that I told him I like you and I enjoy spending time with him and I like what we do together and he replied with the same I like you too I asked that nothing be different between us he said ok. I told him I k now you have had a pretty tough year and i’v been there he said yea it was a tough year. He agreed that he liked me and what was going on with us he just wasn’t sure what I ment with the what is it part. I told him I did not want him to think anything diffrent of me I said I know we talked about it before in my car and we spoke of that again, he said no he did not think that at all. I was like I’m sorry if this is freaking you out by me coming up with this all of a sudden he said no not at all. I asked him if I was making any sense he said yes I guess. I told him I am not making any kind of demands or anything like that. He said he was not sure what to say but that it is what it is, he was like do I make sense? Meaning the relationship
Hi since I feel that your other topic on this same question will be deleted Im going to reply to the both and the same here ok? now you did a good job of breaking the ice, you ought to be proud of your self now and getting it out in the open....so let your selfesteme build and get more confident in the knowledge that this is all going your way as for the relationship can go for now ok? and later on try again [with confidence] to get a better picture of how you would like to go with this rerlationship with him ok? he sounds like a carring and understanding person, so you just keep it up and dont worry ok...glad you guys finished the evening in loving bliss...you go girl
