I'm almost 26 years old and as per the subject line, I don't want to go through pregnancy and labour, but the problem is, my boyfriend of almost four years is intent on having a biological child a little later on in his life (he's 24.) This is one of the main reasons that we are not engaged to be married yet, as we love each other very much, and in the time we have been together we have been through a lot. No matter how much I tell him I don't want to go through pregnancy due to health problems I already have, and my fear of hospitals and needles and the fact I don't hold up to pain well, he is hoping over time I will 'change my mind.' This is a decision I have made, as it would be my body and my choice if I wanted to put myself through it. I would love to adopt though because I feel there are too many kids in 'the system' with out homes with rules and boundries and a steady enviroment. I know the process is long, but it's what I'd like to do.

How do I get it through his thick head and work out a compromise? Otherwise I am afraid I am going to loose him... I sometimes feel that right now we are together for nothing, and that when I tell him for the final time that I am not going through pregnancy and labour, he's going to leave me . That's how intent he is on having a biological child!

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