HELP!!!! My dad said that if i pay for the horse i can have one but my mom said NO WAY! (my parents are divorced and i have a stepmom and stepdad) so how can i convince my mom and ask my now reluctant dad that i liked his idea in the first place?... P.S. my stepdad has to agree too!!!
I have the exact same problem. My parents won't buy me a horse. I decided to wait until I get out of college because I would be sad to not see it every day. I would recomend leasing a horse. I want to do that with a horse I ride.
I don't know what your experience is with horses but maybe you could start with riding lessons. If your parents see that you are truly interested in this and you understand what type of commitment you are making you may be able to persuade them. Good luck!
I do take lessons i have been for nearly 2 and a half years, the reason i ask is because i know my dad would be the one to pay for boarding and he has A LOT of money and my mom knows i love the horse i ride, Robo and that the only thing i ever think about is having my own horse. HELP MEEEEEEEE!!!!
she said that she wouldn't want to drive me every day after school even though she just sits around talking on the phone with her friends the whole time
How far of drive is it? If it's more than 15-20 miles you're asking for alot of your mom's time. You may think your mom has nothing better to do but that isn't going to win you an argument for a horse. If you tell her that, you are saying to her she isn't important, and no one wants to feel that way. You said she spends that time talking with her friends. They probably make her feel important and special. Maybe you can take an aproach that the time she spends driving you would be a good time for you and her to be close and build your relationship. That will tell her that you know her time is important and she is special to you. You can remind her it won't be that long until you go to college. I don't know what your relationship with your mom is like, but I know it's not always an easy time for moms and daughters to relate, so if you use this arguement you will have to make the effort to be friends with her durring the drive.
If you are a girl give your dad the "I'm your baby girl eyes." they always work.Its how I got my horse. If your mom likes horses then I should be a breeze to convince her. If not...you'll just havet to find her weakness and and go for it.
i like your advice jinx111... well i like the advice about my mom because she likes horses too she's even thinking about starting to ride again herself and she loves A LOT of things so i think that i might be able to crack her shell THANX
I have to say, I don't agree with all the "cry to your dad and give your mom the baby eyes" type of advice. It's hard enough to deal with splitting yourself between your two families without turning yourself into the kind of person who is fake and manipulates the people around you. Do you really want to be that kind of person? I know it's tempting to do whatever it takes to have a horse, but horses are honest, dependable, trusting and never whine, and they form the best bonds with people who are the same. Do your parents have at least a decent relationship with each other? Don't try to play your parents off against each other, this will only cause you heartbreak later down the road. Prove to both of them that you deserve a horse through honest efforts (see my advice to Corgilover) and try to get them together on your own horse-loving team. Then the "steps" will have to follow along, to prove they also believe in what is best for you. A long time ago I went through the same as you, and honesty and hard work went a lot farther than fake tears. I hope you get a horse!
You say your Mom likes horses too, so what about suggesting it's something you and you Mom could do together? Then the long drive will be more worthwhile for her too. Obviously your Dad will not pay for her horse even if he pays for yours, but maybe she can afford a lease or part-lease of a horse where you keep yours? Getting her involved in the things you like is a good way to go, IMO. She'll meet new friends too, nice ones that want to do fun things with her like ride together, rather than just yack on the phone.
i have the same problem i have been ding riding for ever, and really want to lease a horse and i mean i can pay for all of it, but my father is being a pain in the butt and not letting me with the lamest excuses. my dad isn't the kind of person that i can manipulate with crying or anything. My mom is behind me 100%. It's tearing me apart cause this ain't the first time he has acted like this.
I agree with littledog987 sounds like really good advice, manipulating and playing your parents against each other sounds really childish and no way to show your mature and responsible enough to have a horse, getting your mom involed might help out too, if you tell her it's something to do together she might be more willing to go for it.
If you want to how your mom that you can be responsible for a horse, you could try volunteering at the barn you ride at, just make sure that your not bothering her for rides out there, or she might use that as an excuse not to get you a horse. Good luck!
Okay, I've been riding for four years and I can see why your mother is hesitant. Yes the first cost and boarding isn't that much but, when you add up brushes and shampoos and hoofpicks and the vet and the farrier and a saddle and bridle and detanglers and showjacketts and all that stuff you ran up quite a long line of numbers. Plus there's always the risk of your horse getting hurt. It's quite a commitment to stay put with your horse when A. You can't ride it and B. the vet bill costs so much your parents can't barely afford it. I'm not saying you don't love your horse though and I'm sure everyone including me would stay with a horse even if it did get hurt- for as long as they could at least. Maybe if you are really serious about it see if you can stay with your dad on the weekdays so he could drive out there wih you. Im not sure how that would make yor mom feel or any legal agreements that you have but you could always ask. Or maybe your dad could pick you up from school, take you straight to the barn, and then drive you back to your mom's house.
If your parents see that you are truly interested in this and you understand what type of commitment you are making you may be able to persuade them. I agree.
leasing a horse would be a great idea as someone already said. It is more likely that your parents will agree with that too. You also get the experiance of having an idea of what it might be to own a horse in the future. It takes a lot of work and money owning a horse and leasing is a good substitute for now.
I am in the same situation, except my grandma is buying the horse. I live in a medium sized town where there is nothing to do. My mom is always trying to get me out of the house, I always tell her that there is nothing to do and if I had a horse that would get me out of the house. My mom loves horses (it runs in the family) so I don't see why not? Mabey your mom is worried about all the other expences like, Vet bills, Ferrier bills, tack, shows, what if you or the horse gets hurt riding? I know that is what my mom is concerned about because growing up on the track she got kicked on the head and my grandpa had too many near death experiences. You getting hurt isn't as bad as the horse money wise. So there are a lot of things to concider
