I would like to start off by saying that I am 22 and my boyfriend is 29. We have been together for a year and a half, but we were friends longer. Neither of us have kids and don't plan to for a couple more years. We live together with two roomates (who have very active sex lives )
When my BF and I first started out, we were sexaholics! Five, six, even 10 times in one 24 hour period. But now it seems we have died down in that dept. He is always complaining about back problems, being sore or tired. I understand as he works hard...but not THAT hard. So I rub him, massage him and to spare him from having to get up and "do it" I perform oral sex to show that I want him, but I do enjoy performing. He is never mean or demanding. But I treat him like royalty here and i am lucky if I get once a day now . I NEVER demand it, but try to "let it happen". Sometimes I am able to get him into the mood, and it usually lasts about 3-15 mins every time. I really don't mind, as he drives me crazy when we make love!
It seems that I am scared to go to bed now cos I am so darn attracted to him it turns me on, and sometimes it gets to the point where I cry cos it starts to hurt .
I tried talking to him about it, but he just tells me "but im always moving all day, i am tired when i come home". So I think, oh well, i'll just try whenever he seems awake. I am even starting to become wary of hanging out with him cos sometimes I can't control myself when I am even sitting next to him! Masturbating doesn't cut it cos I just crave the real thing. We always use protection EVERY time, so there is no real worry of pregnancy.
I don't feel this way towards other men, only him. I love him so much but this is starting to kill me inside. I must mention, I did gain weight since but not so much I can't move or work or anything. I am starting to worry if maybe he's not sexually attracted to me anymore :'(.
Is there any sort of therapy out there for this? Any sort of drug? I tried going on BC pills...actually i was on them since I Was 16, but recently stopped as I was gaining too much weight. The only way I can think of to dull my sex drive is to start smoking again...that kept my appetite for food and sex very low....
I don't know, I am starting to feel...depressed and bitchy all the time....I even snap at my rommies for making noise ahem "at night"....
Can someone help?
Cree
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Getting sex 10 times per day is WAY abnormal and almost any normal couple will drop off from that type of activity level in a short time. You seem to be ticked off that you are lucky to get it once per day. That is even way off the normal level for couples. The average for a good healthy relationship is 2-3 times per week. So even though you have a incredible sex drive it seems like your bf is probably in the normal range. So I suggest if you love him and want him to be in your life for long term - you need to tone down your sexual demands and make the times when you do it more meaningful and more delightful for him.
Well I didn't know that. I always thought a man with a big sex drive before will be the same later. I guess not. I am not going to leave him just because of this, in case thats what you're thinking! I was merely wondering if theres something wrong with ME, or maybe get some tips on how to fix my problem. I just can't seem to stop myself when I 'm around him.
I was thinking of moving out by myself. That way I don't really become too attached yet, and when we do see each other he would be up and ready to go hehe
It's more of a problem with me then eh? So what can I do to fix this? I was never ever this hyped up about sex until I was with him. Now it just seems like I can't get enough of him.
Well, he does work all day, and I guess I feel a little like a dog wagging it's tail when he gets home and humping his leg HAHA (i'm joking BTW)
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