hi im a mother of 2 kids..7 yr old and a 3 mnth old...the relationship with the father of my 7 yr old ended 5 yrs ago and with the father of my new baby ended when i was 7 mnths pregnant...i have friend i'll call "David" we have been friends for almost 2 years . at first when we met he wanted to date me, but i didn't...i used to party a lot and he didn't like that and in order for us to date i would've had to stop that and well i didn't want to at that time. we stayed as just friends. and well about 3 weeks ago he asked me out and we started dating. Is it too soon? the fact that i have another baby doesn't seem to bother him at all. we go out to stores and i end up wanting to buy things for her but he doesn't let me pay. (which for me is a little uncomfortable)he is a very nice guy...very caring..supports me in wanting to go to college..he wants to help on everything i need...i need some mature advice..
You really need to mature as you are making huge mistakes that are putting your life and kids lives in a rut. What the heck are you doing going out and "Partying" like you are a teenager in HS? And then getting pregnant without being in a marriage - what the heck are you thinking?
Ok so here's some facts that you need to embrace:
1) You are a single mom of two children that need a stable home. THE CHILDREN are your most important thing in life - not your social life.
2) You are not a teenage party girl anymore. You are a mother that needs to act responsibily and provide a good role model for the children.
3) You should NEVER consider having children outside of a stable and loving marriage. Hopefully you learned your lesson here.
So what should you be doing. Well for starters you need to focus on the needs of your children first before self. They not only need food and clothing but a loving mom to read books to them, help with homework and provide a good role model. Now if you desire the need to date then you should only date mature guys that are interested in both you and your kids. You should be striving to re-marry and have a husband that is willing to love your kids as his own. Again - you need to put your desire for fun times with the guys aside until the kids are mature and can manage themselves. Now if a good man comes along in the meantime that is mature and shows interest in not only you but your family then go for it.
Hi how are you well anyway being that was your friend I feel it can work dont worry about people say I have a cousin in the same position and she is happy she have a man that loves her children and his and they are now married. just to say she had twins and the father of the twins said it wasnt his and the other guy steped in when they was in the hospital and he didnt care now they have there son and they are happy just do what you have to do as a parent and take one day at a time with the guy.
