Everything was good, until he started to pick and poke at every little bit of mistakes and flaws about a month ago. But he acted like everything was okay and I could fix things if I changed a few things. We had a huge fight and I threw a fit about how the things he wants me to change are part of my personality. So things cooled down for a bit and out of nowhere today he told me he wanted to break up. I said he's confused. He doesn't know if he wants to be with me or not. He says he feels trapped being in a relationship as though he can't get things done... and everything he wants to do has to go through the both of us. Then he starts crying and tells me he loves me but just not as much anymore, and he doesn't want for us to keep going if we're not going to be together forever. He told me he feels as though we're not going to last, and he doesn't want to keep it going if we won't. So after telling me he still loves me, whether I believe it or not, he asks for a week break. He said within this week he'll decide if he wants to continue our relationship or end it completely.

It's going to kill be having to sit here for a week wondering if he wants to keep us or not. I love him to death, and we've both agreed I love him more than he loves me. But I don't know what to do. I'm so angry that he brought something like this up because he's "promised" (yea I know, don't believe in promises) that he would be with me til the end of time because he can't imagine being with anybody else. He's assured me so well before that he would be with me forever, and I was "the one" for him. But with this stunt he's pulling now, it hurts me so much.. I don't know if I can stand the pain. Should I do the job for him and cut us clean or wait an agonizing week to find out. I don't know what to do because if we are to stay together, I don't know how I'll be able to trust him not to hurt me again.. or trust our relationship. But if I were to lose him, I don't know how I'll be able to survive.

It's only been... an hour. To wait a week? *cries.

Assume you are not married? Reason I ask is I am a firm believer you should do what it takes to work out marriage issues. If you are still just dating this might be a sign that this might not be "Mr Right" for you afterall. Don't ever ignore negative warning signs and expect them to just go away over time. So don't kill yourself to keep this man around as it might be better to just move on.

sinyuri
This is just my personal opinion and I know I don't know the whole story. But it sounds like this guy doesn't really want to be with you and he's just affraid to pull the plug. Maybe he's affraid of hurting your feelings or affraid of what family and friends will think if he breaks up with you. I have always felt that if somebody didn't want to be with me then I certainly didn't want to be with them. If that were me I would make his decision a whole lot easier for him. You're supposed to wait around like he's gods gift to humanity while he decides if he will grace you with his presence until the next time he becomes unsure? Wow! What an ego. I say beat him to the punch and drop the guy. Yes it will be hard at first but trust me it will get better. I've been there. There are many more guys out there for you. When you find the right one you won't even have to try to make it work, it will take care of itself. Good luck