I'm 29. I've been in a progressive relationship for two years. The closer I get to my girlfriend, the more involved I become in her three young childrens' lives. At times I feel in control, but other times I feel very overwhelmed and think to myself.."what are you doing?" My girlfriend is amazing but is she amazing enough? Am I just love sick and irrational? I can start a family but I don't think I have the patience to deal with her children and situations that I would have if they were my own kids. There is also the Dad situation, which in itself is stressful. Should I stick it out and learn to accept the situation out of love or move on?

Bottom line is that the girl you really like is a mother of 3 little ones and is divorced. That is a fact that will never go away no matter how you slice things. Continuing to fall more in love with her also will require you to embrace her kids and deal with the "Dad" situation. If you plan on continuing the relationship with her you really need to be prepared to becoming a step father to these kids and love them like they were your own. Are you prepared to do that? Also if you do plan on moving forward with her you need to discuss her desire to have any more kids since she might feel she is good with the 3 she has and has no desire to become a mother again - which means you will never get the chance to have a biological child of your own. Is that ok with you - need to face these things now before you go too far.

I hope I am not scaring you into dumping her and I am not saying you can't move forward with her and have a wonderful and fullfilling life. But if you have bad feelings about having a "ready made" family and can't handle dealing with the "Dad" do yourself and her a favor and move on.