I've been an admirer of the Roloff family for a long time. However, with that being said, I've always been troubled by Amy's lack of support for Matt in all aspect of their lives. It's really sad. Instead of being a couple, raising their family, Matt is treated as an outsider by Amy.
In the years I've watched, she has never been on his side about anything. Based on her actions, she cares more for her children than she does for her husband. She'd rather kick him to the curb than upset their kids, and I find that appalling and a terrible example to the children.
Matt is an incredible man, who has accomplished unbelievable things in his lifetime. One can only wonder what how much more he might have done with a supportive wife who respects him.
Matt should try putting the kids first sometime instead of those stinking projects. He might also try treating Amy like an equal and consulting her rather than dictating to her the way he did tonight and in the Molly's Castle episode.
Originally posted by mintjulep_ageless: I have heard Amy say in interview that she never really thought there would BE any children, which highly disputes that 'donor' theory.
This IS the 21st century in most places...if WOMEN are advising Amy to 'be grateful'..there is little hope of progress in the larger arena.
I hear ya. But we must remain positive. It's just a matter of getting the message across!
I've been watching this show for quit sometime & it's seems Matt is the one who provides financially for ther family, yet he come home to this beautiful home he created for his family & Amy seems so unappreciative of his efforts.This beautiful home looks trashed every time the cameras are on & amy does nothing to encourage/make her kids do their responsibilities around the house. She lets those kids run wild & wonders why they have problem w/their grades. She made the comment that when she was growing up she didn't have a lot of friends over to her home so she is compensating way to much by letting her kids run her household. It's a beautiful home that noone, including Amy & the kids have respect for,otherwise Amy would take more initative to tidy up. Matt works his tale off to give their family the comforts of a wonderful home & farm & it he seems to get no appreciation from his wife & kids & I see Amy give Matt very little affection. It's sad because good men like Matt are hard to find & I think Amy & the kids take advantage of Matt & treat him poorly. It's time you backed your husband up & stood in a united front in front of your children. That's the only way you're going to get cooperation from them-to see their parents in a united front-. Matt- you deserve better, you are an visionary & you've overcome so many obstacles & your family does not appreciate you. Wise uo Amy teach your kids a little respect for their father. He is the head of the household-get it together .
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Yes, it is sad. Tonights show made me so mad. It is so very sad that the kids are not going on the trip with Matt. I think Amy that something to do with it. Zack needs a good talking to the way he talks to Matt. It is o.k. that the kids will go with her but not Matt. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. Poor Matt. I would not let anyone in my house if it looked like that.
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Originally posted by mswrite: I've been an admirer of the Roloff family for a long time. However, with that being said, I've always been troubled by Amy's lack of support for Matt in all aspect of their lives. It's really sad. Instead of being a couple, raising their family, Matt is treated as an outsider by Amy.
I agree. It makes me angry to watch how the kids are "taken hostage" to a side. I think Zach is hilarious for the most part but it really bothers me that he is increasingly so disrespectful to his dad (mostly) and mom. His words seem to be the echo of the negativity Amy has brought to the family relationship through the years. I am certainly not saying Matt is anywhere near perfect or right in all his decisions but this is getting ridiculous and not fun to watch. I was a little shocked that Molly decided not to go either. They all came off as incredibly spoiled.
Hi Pam.. I agree with you. I was so mad at the way that Zach spoke to his father WOW. If I ever did that my dad would have knocked my teeth out. Matt had a LOVELY trip planned and that wasnt good enough for Zach.
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I totally agree...I have enjoyed watching this program but I am really ticked off with Amy...She could have nipped this whole Virgin Island thing in the bud by being more supportive of Matt...Since when do the children run everything...She seemed to get pleasure out of watching Zach pull his usual tantrum...I wish she would put her foot down just once when it comes to her kids...I raised three and I wanted them to enjoy our home but they understood that a home is not an indoor amusement park!I can see how Matt gets frustrated...Amy should show her husband that she loves and appreciates him...In a few years the kids will be gone and all she will have is Matt...unless she plans to move in with her grown children!Matt comes up with a lot of projects that many kids would die to have...I have not always agreed with him but parents have to stick together.
Plus, in all likelihood Matt is not necessarily going to be around and/or up to this type of thing as long as some dads might be and I hope the kids and Amy realize this and somehow make that right before it's too late. Grrr is right.
Call me Matt, I would gladly go on a vacation to the Virgin Islands with you!!! And to top it off, I would be APPRECIATIVE....AND THANKFUL, probably not something he is used to...
I have watched the show for since it started, but this last year I feel Amy is being more resentful of Matt. I was really disappointed in the way she handled herself tonight by not encouraging all the kids to go with Matt. She was mad she couldn't go and she wasnt about to encourage them to go. Then little Jacob was pulled into the realm and I felt so bad for him because he looked so torn about it. I thought Amy was an awesome woman of her size but with her actions these past few shows, it makes me doubt the way I look at her. Please don't let this family become another one I don't want to watch..I love this show, go back to being the family you were in the beginning.
I got the same impression mcant33. Amy was clearly po'ed that she couldnt go and got Jacob and Zach in the middle of it. She could have rescheduled that speaking engagement in WI with ease but instead she felt it necessary to start drama. I dont know folks I think they are headed in a bad direction.
OH MY LORD.. Did you guys see how dirty that kitchen was? She even said that the dishes werent done the whole while she was gone. And then her remarks about the trip.. Really
I can't believe Amy's action tonight, now we know where Zack gets his bad attitude towards his dad I was holding out for Molly to stand on her own and glad little Jacob did, way to go Jeremy, good man. For Amy not everything revolves around her, she should have sucked it up told the kids to have a nice time with their father.
I really liked this show in the beginning but seeing how the kids are so rude to their parents and in general how dirty their house it has been a huge turn off.Its a shame there are clothes piled higher than their parents. Zach is totally out of line ALL THE TIME. I don't care how much you don't like your parents there is a thing called RESPECT for putting a rough over your head and clothes on your back! Have I seen any of these kids with a part time job?! They don't even require them to help out in the house unless its totally trashed. I feel bad for Matt because he is the only one who tries to establish order and rules and Amy just cuts him down. I know we are seeing only edited versions, but it doesn't seem like anything is stacked in Amy's favor. Edited or not, there is some truth to what is showed.
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Aother thing I'd like to add is it seems Matt is happiest when he is trying to do things that will make Amy happy, like when he searched for the perfect anniversary card for her. He said he could't just go through the card isle & pick up the 1st card that appealed to him-he took the time to look over MANY cards for her. How many husbands do that? Not many. Please work out your problems with Matt. I know he must be hard to deal with on a lot of levels-but one thing is certain-for anyone who watches your shows-that man adores his family. And yes his mind works 100 mi. per hr. to try to come up w/new concepts to make your lives better. I just know this man deserves much,much more appreciatin that he gets from his kids. Don't loose that child-like innocence. I DON'T BLAME YOU AMY I JUST THINK YOU OUGHT TO STAND IN A UNITED FRONT WITH YOUR HUSBAND INFRONT OF THE CHILDREN & give him more praise for the things he' accomplished for your family to enjoy. I'm sure you are a nice person Amy but you need to take control of your kids because they won't be able to go out & face the world when they are use to you waking thm up 15 time a day just to get them to school on time. Who's gonna wake them up for college every a.m.? I don't see it happening. Best bet- your kids need to go into the closest city in your area & find jobs they can focus on for a little while to establish resposibility-things like getting to work on time, which I'm sure they still will need you for that.Your family has entertained me over the past few seasons & I have such admiration for what all of you have overcome but Amy come on-step-up-keep your home in order. It would make your husband eccstatic & perhaps even give your kids the innitive to do there part. Lay down the law a little bit. You might be surprised.
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YOU all are pathetic, if you cannot see why Amy had a total right to be upset.
Matt is just plain stupid. All he wants to do is spend money and build toys like a little kid, and couldnt even take the time to spend time with his family on the vacation they were all supposed to go on. He was more worried about how things were getting run on the farm.
Gimme a break. He had people there taking care of stuff. He should of been more concerned about family vacations then. He also should spend a little more time paying attention to what goes on with his wife and kids other than building more useless things on his farm, for one season out of the year.
And as for Amy being upset. Of course she was upset. Matt took it upon himself once again to plan something without talking to her, or finding out if she had plans or not. If he was planning a family vacation, why wouldnt she of wanted to go. Matt should of paid attention to know when Amy had things going on, and planned it around that.
I dont blame Zach and Molly for staying home with thier Mom. Why would they of wanted to go on a family vacation, when it wasnt even a family vacation?
As for their home being a "mess" gimme a break. This is reality tv. I can gaurantee that if we went into one of your homes right now, it would not be spotless. Some people like to pretend their house is clean all the time, but they have four kids there, and the reality is no home can be kept spotless all the time.
Stop looking for things to blame on Amy. She puts up with Matt for her kids sake, and hopefully she wont for much longer...its time for her to find some sanity, and go out and make something of herself before he takes every ounce of sanity she has left.
hope you're listening Amy-all these people's comments can;t be wrong-show some repect & love for your husband who has broken down his tiny body to give you & your children sonenthing special. People are really being turned off by the way you & yor kids treat Matt & Zach is starting to follow in your ways of disrespecting Matt.All these people can't be wrong. Straighten up amy, your a beginnig to be the least liked person on the show-whether that matters to you or not but I have a feeling Matt is going to be getting alot more attention from the female population because you don't treat him right. Any woman can get up & make breakfast, but that filth hole you call a home is disgusting. Matt should've never have built such a beautiful home for such an ungrateful wife & spoilt kids. PATHETIC.
Matt has spent his like making a home on a ranch on Oregon for his family. Cosidering his disability he has nmade dreams come true for his chilkdren w/ perfect health couldn't have pulled off. He's tried his best to show his family diffrent wonders of world taking them places that he himself could not participate in but got sheere enjoymnet out of watching his family enjoy oppurtunities of a lifetime.He;s busted himself trying to make seciure furure so his n34 kids cann go toschool & the two boys have to be told over a 45min. period to get up- they have no repect for rules & i blame amy for that.She admitted to growing up w/ few friends at her house & now wants it to be a free for all for her teenage kids who are supposed to be preparing for college wich Zach nnever took serious- I think nhe expects to live off his parents since soccer didn't work out for him because of his gradews, in which he didn't apply hgimself becuse his mother was too sodt. Everytime Matt ry to lay down the law when it came to homework Amy interferred =-typical. No, Matt isn't to balme-Amy wants to run the show, she has that beautiful house in shambels & it's pathetic to think of everything Matt went throught to mmake it exactly what she & the kids wnated 7 this is hoew they treat it. Amy needs to do A LOT of changing before I will have any respect for her or her 2 oldest boys-especially Zach-
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Matt may be misguided, but he tries to do what he thinks will be fun for his family.
She belittles him, undermines him, pits her children against him which is DISGUSTING for a mother to do... encourages Zach to be disrespectful to his father, to hurt his father's feelings, then to help him bait the other kids into also turning on him.
She's a little person, and not in the sense of height.
Amy really upset me on this last program. They claim to be a Christian family, with Christian values. They are acting JUST like the world...no different. A Mother should NEVER set her children against their father. They seem ungrateful. Even if Matt is wrong and sometimes he may be...but there is a way to handle it. And whats up with this new word coming out of Amy's mouth and Zak's mouth ???? I think its terrible. I am disappointed. Amy and the children should treat Matt with respect.
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Zach's outburst has made me lose total respect for Zach, I'm sre he's worried about college * the fact he is the only sibling in the family that is a little person. I'm sure over time all this has weighed on his mind throughout childhood & adolecents but that's no erxcuse for him to speak to his father w/such disrepect & for amy to sit back there, seemingly to smirk saying nothing. Seems she wants to divide these kids up-some on he side & some on Matt's- I thought this woman had character & moral christian values. Just goes to show how easily people can be fooled as long as the cameras are rolling. Amy- you need to do something to redeem yourself because you are looking worse w/every episode.
if Amy were any kind of a person, she'd at least demand her kids show him the respect he deserves as their father.
It's not like he's abusive, he's not neglectful, he may be misguided and a bit befuddling, but he's well meaning. He obviously helps provide for them, its obvious he loves his kids.
Amy yells at him, demeans him, and encourages her kids to be disrespectful.
If I disrespected my late father the way Zach does, my mom would have tanned my hide and grounded me.
Five years after my father passed, I still regret the few times I stepped out of line with him, when he was only trying to do what he thought would be best for the family.
Amy is wrong for not supporting Matt...what's the big deal if she couldn't make it. I think she's just in the habit of making ALL (in her own words) the decision when it comes to her children and family vacation. I also think Matt is wrong. Why is he comparing his relationship with his childhood friend better than that of his children and thier friends. That wasn't nice, and that's why Zach got upset. Speaking of the children....Molly stated that they pick sides when it comes to the parents family decisions. WHAT? Who allows that? No parent should allow any child to chose sides!! NEVER!!! Zach...he worries me. If something happens to his dad he will be ruined for life. No child should have a bad relationship with a parent and it's obvious that he does. Something happened that he's mad at his dad. He needs to talk to someone about it. Jeremy...don't mean to make him sound like the only one who has his head leveled...but...he is. Jacob....poor Jacob. He's innocent in all this and confused. They need to leave him out of it. All in all I believe this is a loving family who needs to make a few adjusments just like any normal family. They'll b ok....they are all great people who are passionate. All the struggles they've encountered has made then this way. Strong people who are passionate with what the believe. Good luck to them and may they stay in our lives for years to come. Would love to see weddings and grandchildren.
Amy you use the excuse that your folks kept too nice of a home,that you didn't bring many friends home, well I think your just plain lazy,but you also know that thru their displine an structure, helped you to make it in school. Children need this, structure an displine, and organization skills,all of these is what is lacking in your home,an its your fault!! I think you had a controlling dad, and you just have made up your mind that you are going to do the controlling in your family. I don't think Matt wants to control anyone he wants both of you to be good parents together, as you should, when he thinks the kids need displine, you should agree together, not disagree, especally in front of the kids, thats when the kids learn to start pitting you against each other. Now, as even your own brother says, your kids run your house just the way they want to, and that they are terrible kids,its so true, an you let them run right over you too. They don't have any respect for you either!!! Thats another reason they are doing so bad in school also, absolutely no structure. Grow up Amy, you can't be a good,an respected parent, and their buddie at the same time. I begin to believe that you are jealous of Matts vision, an insight. You would rather put him down, an be negative, especially in front of the kids, as an"Adult", you should be ashamed, you act just like the kids! Parents need to know when an how to disipline, an still let the kids know that you love them. Another thing Amy, it was ok that you took trips alone, and with your brother an sisters, why did you have to make such an issue over Matt's trip with his father,friends an Jermy, you could have told everyone, that it was ok, an that you will be able to go on the next trip, act happy(even tho you may be alittle sad) an encourage the rest to go together, thats what a caring adult would do. I feel so sorry for you,and also the children, their lives are going right down the tubes, why can't you see this,an change your attitude,its bad,why do you have to be so negative, the kids don't have any positive insight into their future!
Tonight's episode was depressing. I think we're seeing the beginnings of a family that is starting to fall apart. The scheduling conflict and lack of good communication between Amy and Matt was the catalyst for the division between Matt and Zach. Amy could have been a bigger person in this and encouraged Zach and Molly to take part in the vacation and she could certainly have rescheduled her speaking engagement if she truly wanted to go. She encouraged Zach and Molly to not go and even slapped them five when they went to tell him they weren't going. Amy is really unpleasant this season...she is mean spirited and seems to want to pick fights constantly. She definitely favors Zach and allows him to bad mouth his Dad and be rude and disrespectful to him. Zach was being stubborn and nasty...
On a good note, I liked very much that Jeremy was the grown up here and managed not to become involved in the stand off and opted to go on the kick ass trip and had a great time. He has matured this season.
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I have to agree with kicksave7, this was a depressing episode...I was so upset with Any and Zak that I didn't watch their next show. Fist Jon and Kate now Amy and Matt....they keep talking separation or divoce...who wants to hear that, we can turn the T.V. off and look in the mirror for that...
What century are you living in? Amy's job is not to support Matt no matter how horribly he treats her, regardless of his financial contributions. They are BOTH compensated for the show. Yes, Matt has had many ideas that have paid off (i.e. pumpkin farm). But Amy has definitely paid the price.
I do feel sorry for the kids b/c they are clearly in a sub standard school system. For all the money Matt has made, he should have focused more on his kid's schooling and less on his ideas. Molly is their only hope, but she would go much further in life if she received a quality education early on.
Well for everyone that is bashing amy I will have to agree that you can definatly also see that her attitude towards matt has changed. However there is probably behind the scene problems that we are not finding out about. I really like this show it shows what persistance can do for you. So for me to see that the family seems to be falling apart is really sad to me. I beleive they are not talking about what is truly bothering them and once they open up to each other they will have there love back! They are all going through very large changes in there lives and I know it can be very hard to deal with, but they need to remember that they have a very good future ahead of them and to move forward with it. The whole world is watching them so i imagine it is alot of pressure. I hope that they don't think divorce is the answer to any of there problems, because it is not. So to Matt try to understand what might be bothering your wife, and to amy try to open up to matt and let him know how you are feeling or what is bothering you, a strong person knows when to ask for help. Also i have a some thing you guy can try if you are reading this it is called LEVEL OF LIFE heres how it goes Every problem you have in your lives gets a rating from 1-10 1 being the lowest 10 the highest. So when you have a problem or want to do something that you are not agreeing on you need to rate it. If one of the parties has a score of 5 or more you need to talk about it, if the score of one of the parties is lower then 5 you don't worry about it and go about your business. This will help you to understand your partner, so things you might think are insignifficant might be extremly important to the other. This might help you to understand a little more where the other person is comming from or what is bothering them. It will also help you to only talk about things that are important and let the fluff just fly by!! So good luck roloff family please don't dissapoint me.
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Jrockrocks: Matt is the father... PERIOD {QUOTE]
Wow,what a lot of Anti-Amys. Matt should have consulted Amy or taken a look at the family calendar that they said the family kept. My family makes these decisions together. I'd be furious with my husband if he just up and did this- and none of the "Well, he provides you with a good home" sentences in the world could make me alright with it. Matt has speaking engagements and is gone. He jumped in and out of the family vacation during the summer and the days he was there, he texted/phone the entire time. As to the V.I. trip, how many times did Matt say, "I guess I could have rescheduled but...." and then filled in with another reason to go forward.
This week he plans another trip for himself over Mother's Day and the twin's birthdays. Don't tell me this is about Amy. This is Matt doing what Matt wants to do when Matt wants to do it.
Originally posted by treespryt: Matt should try putting the kids first sometime instead of those stinking projects. He might also try treating Amy like an equal and consulting her rather than dictating to her the way he did tonight and in the Molly's Castle episode.
Matt tries to include Amy, if you watch the show you would see what happens when he tries.
Originally posted by innerjujuju: [QUOTE]Originally posted by Jrockrocks: Matt is the father... PERIOD {QUOTE]
Wow,what a lot of Anti-Amys. Matt should have consulted Amy or taken a look at the family calendar that they said the family kept. My family makes these decisions together. I'd be furious with my husband if he just up and did this- and none of the "Well, he provides you with a good home" sentences in the world could make me alright with it. Matt has speaking engagements and is gone. He jumped in and out of the family vacation during the summer and the days he was there, he texted/phone the entire time. As to the V.I. trip, how many times did Matt say, "I guess I could have rescheduled but...." and then filled in with another reason to go forward.
This week he plans another trip for himself over Mother's Day and the twin's birthdays. Don't tell me this is about Amy. This is Matt doing what Matt wants to do when Matt wants to do it.
I would do the same thing by leaving if I had to put up with what Amy does.
Originally posted by PurpleRayne: YOU all are pathetic, if you cannot see why Amy had a total right to be upset.
Matt is just plain stupid. All he wants to do is spend money and build toys like a little kid, and couldnt even take the time to spend time with his family on the vacation they were all supposed to go on. He was more worried about how things were getting run on the farm.
Gimme a break. He had people there taking care of stuff. He should of been more concerned about family vacations then. He also should spend a little more time paying attention to what goes on with his wife and kids other than building more useless things on his farm, for one season out of the year.
And as for Amy being upset. Of course she was upset. Matt took it upon himself once again to plan something without talking to her, or finding out if she had plans or not. If he was planning a family vacation, why wouldnt she of wanted to go. Matt should of paid attention to know when Amy had things going on, and planned it around that.
I dont blame Zach and Molly for staying home with thier Mom. Why would they of wanted to go on a family vacation, when it wasnt even a family vacation?
As for their home being a "mess" gimme a break. This is reality tv. I can gaurantee that if we went into one of your homes right now, it would not be spotless. Some people like to pretend their house is clean all the time, but they have four kids there, and the reality is no home can be kept spotless all the time.
Stop looking for things to blame on Amy. She puts up with Matt for her kids sake, and hopefully she wont for much longer...its time for her to find some sanity, and go out and make something of herself before he takes every ounce of sanity she has left.
I think maybe you watch a different show, thousands of vans can't be all wrong.
I think maybe you watch a different show, thousands of vans can't be all wrong.
Yes they can. So many people forget that Matt is a salesman and a master manipulator. He spends a lot of time in front of the camera playing poor, pitiful Matt. Even the kids are catching on.
This is Matt doing what Matt wants to do when Matt wants to do it.
My take on this episode, too. I agree with every one on the house situation. Matt's foresight took a so-so house and turned it into a lovely, comfortable home and no one seems to appreciate it. These kids are old enough to know better than to act like they do. One question for the boys, do you and your friends act like this at their homes, or is it a no-no? You and your friends show no respect for your parents hard work to give you a life style that they didn't have. If this were my situation, I would call all of the parents over and show them what their child had helped to do and then the little darlings would not be allowed back. This is one of my pet peeves, but how can a child's friends respect their home if they don't? I've seen episodes on this show with an "adult" running thru the house tackling the boys playing football and Matt just sat there letting it go on. Amy just told them to stop. This was before the extensive remodeling and it made me want to get up and grab someone to throw in the corner for time out, child or adult didn't make any difference. This season everyone has become selfish. This used to be one of my top ranked shows because it was real, not anymore. Had to get this off my chest, thanks for listening.[QUOTE]
I think Matt is the most to blame. He can get around when he wants to... 2 trips to Iraq, skiing, etc. He makes all the plans for the house and the farm without Amy's input, in fact, refuses to consider her opionion. Remember how he kept changing the house plans and then ran out of money? And then moved his office staff into the housee while the family was living in two rooms
If my husband booked us on a trip without consulting me, neither of us would be going on the trip. Granted, the house is messy, but there are kids, two adults, workers and a dog in that house.
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Matt is not to blame. This is a joint venture. Matt tries to take steps to discipline the kids over the years but Amy shoots him down repeatedly. for whatever reason Matt has allowed it and it continues.
What you have here is a couple who are basically living like singles. They are in the same house, but they are not together. They are not a united front and it shows.
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I have often wondered that too coralsea if they are living completely separate lives. I am sure they have their own bedrooms. They don't seem to be able to stand one another or at least Amy seems to really dislike Matt.
Yah..that's IT!!
is happiest when he is trying to do things that will make Amy happy, like when he searched for the perfect anniversary card for her. He said he could't just go through the card isle & pick up the 1st card that appealed to him-he took the time to look over MANY cards for her. How many husbands do that? Not many.
tries. 
