Do you guys remember the episode where the big house remodel was beginning? Amy was concerned about the cost and asked Matt if there was enough money for the kid's college if they did it. He told her that a college fund was set up for each kid. Anyone else remember that? I was shocked and amazed that she was in the dark about their finances.

I'm bring this up because I'm seeing so many people making posts about "poor Amy". They say that they understand her frustration, not knowing what's going to happen if Matt keeps spending money. Amy is NOT a victim, my friends. You know her personality by now. If she wanted to know what was going on with budgets, we can bet she would find out! If she wanted to learn about her family's financial worth, don't you think she would? She doesn't seem to be concerned about going "over budget" on any projects, she just is against any project. She was in the dark about how much money they had and even if they could afford to send the children to college at that point. I just hope that all of you who are feeling sorry for Amy will consider this.

We don't see Matt and Amy having any civil discussions. I really do hope they can get some help because we are seeing the family fall apart and it's quite sad. They have everything most of us could ever want except a loving relationship. Matt is accused of being a "dreamer" but we don't see his dreams fail! If he was throwing money down a hole it'd be one thing but he seems to be successful in just about everything he does. He was successful in his IT work that took him all over the world. The farm has grown and become a showplace that thousands of people want to visit every year. I'm sure he was the one who encouraged TLC to do the show--don't you know that Amy thought that was crazy! He was smart to make these new things happen, who knows how long he could continue traveling with his health issues? A successful man tries many things, fails at some but keeps trying and keeps dreaming. He did all of this to provide for his family and it's just sad to see his partner in life fight him at every turn. It's hard to believe that Amy is still fighting Matt after all the success he has had. Unfortunately, Matt is so used to Amy being negative about everything that he avoids telling her about the things he is doing. It's a vicious circle. Under the successful circumstances, I don't get why Amy is still so critical. they need help, they need to be able to talk about what they are doing together and I don't see that happening unless someone intervenes and teaches them how to talk to each other. It's just a sad, sad situation.

Again, I write this because I want to point out that Amy is not a victim. She is not informed about her families finances, that makes you feel out of control but if she wanted the information, she could get it. She could be involved with all the decisions we see made if she wanted to be. We know that Amy is a smart lady but what we are seeing does not reflect that. there is just no communication between the two. And unfortunately, her spite has spread to Zach. I hope the family can get some help, it's sad and hard to watch.

I agree, Amy is not a victim.

On the other hand, neither is Matt.

Amy can explore their finances, and Matt can find out his kid's game schedules. Amy can keep track of schedules she needs, and so can he.


As to communication, a point to consider is that Matt seems to be unable to have a conversation..even with his own wife and kids...unless he's 'selling'. Going into salesman spiel is not an encouragment to have an in-depth conversation. I can well envision him 'selling' to a therapist. Matt does not listen well, Matt talks.

No, Amy is not a victim, and neither is Matt.

It's very hard to have a conversation when Amy and Zach are attacking Matt's every word. It's like living with two Debbie Downer's. Zach and Amy are always angry with Matt. No matter what he does, their hostility is always present.

In order to have a conversation, you have to have people that will listen without going on the attack. Zach and Amy can't seem to do this when Matt is involved. It is what it is.