I just joined to be able to comment on what I saw tonight. Someone else beat me to it, as I was going to say it was PAINFUL to watch the show. I quit watching last season, because Amy is so hostile to Matt and I couldn't take it any more. Bottom line is that we are ALL flawed, but we have to find a way to deal with the flaws of our spouses. The outrageous disrespect Amy shows will only cause damage to her family. Does this woman really not know that a man values respect above most else? Or maybe she does, and this is her purposeful way of punishing Matt. How awful. They are in serious trouble and have been for some time. I think the disrespect I saw from Kate Gosselin was largely responsible for driving Jon away. I wonder if that is actually Amy's hope--that she will drive Matt away. Sure seems like it. I hope they read these message boards and have their eyes opened. I won't be watching again.

I feel like we are watching the Jon & Kate story all over. Amy is pushing Matt away either on purpose or unknowingly. Matt deserves better. Matt- you don't have to put up with this!

i have never written on a message board before. and i have always loved this show but the last episode i watched has disappointed me. AMY your kids love their dad too!!! you should be more supportive of Matt you say everything is always about Matt i think everything is always about you I hardly ever hear Matt criticize you but you are constantly criticizing him. think of your kids and show a little respect for their father it looks like you cannot stand to be married to him, but i see you enjoy the luxuries of a nice home, summer long vacations, nice cars , and a husband who at one time was very much in love with his wife but it seems a person can only take th disrespect so long. amy grow up and quit trying to get your kids to take sides against their father

I partly agree with you texasgardener.
Both Amy and Matt are playing victims in it all and the kids are caught right between it all. My thoughts on Matt are that he does go and make plans without asking Amy and he does not always listen to the family when they speak.
Amy, like's to play best buddies with her kids and not Mother. Also she is really really hard on Matt, and she talks about their personal issues with the kids, which is not right, they do not need that at their young age or at any age because they are their parents. The kids....they disrespect their house, their belongings and their parents. And Matt tries to enforce rules and Amy says out right, they need to have fun in their house. And then at the end of the show tonight she says I should be making them clean their dishes but its good to feel needed. Thats not needed, thats called maid service.

matt is a classic of case of passive aggressive personality disorder.

AKA, "it's all about me , but il'll pretend it's about you".

the wonderful children are now young adults and are tired of his head games.

he could use advise on how to treat people, but no use, he can't see beyond his on needs.

move on amy, you deserve a happiness.

I also joined just so I could post after seeing tonight's shows. I've watched LPBW since the beginning and the last few episodes have been heartwrenching to watch. This family is falling apart before our eyes and it's so very sad. I admit that Matt is often exasperating and nowhere near perfect, but Amy is just downright vicious to him. She has the gall to call Matt selfish?? How about the way she selfishly manipulated the 3 youngest children into turning down that trip because SHE couldn't go and she was mad at Matt? How does she enjoy a hollow victory like that? Now the whole family is upset and torn apart, and she seems very smug and happy about it all. Amy likes to take total credit for everything her kids do, so I guess she should take credit for them turning into ungrateful and disrespectful little brats. Honestly, she treats Matt like he was nothing but a sperm donor and the kids are all hers and hers alone. I'm so sick of watching Zach sulk and skulk around while Amy mollycoddles him. Is it any wonder he's such a slacker? I mean, this kid has zero ambition and not surprisingly that's the complete opposite of his father. LPBW is supposed to be about how little people can do anything normal sized people can do, yet Amy consistently provides a crutch for Zach and I can only surmise it's because he's the only one of her children who is a little person. It's so counter-productive. She's way too wrapped up in her kids' lives for their own good and I wonder how she'll cope when they fly the nest (if they ever do.) She's made all of them so dependent on her I don't see how any of them will ever function without her directing their every decision in life. I'm too disgusted to watch anymore.

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Originally posted by texasgardener:
I just joined to be able to comment on what I saw tonight. Someone else beat me to it, as I was going to say it was PAINFUL to watch the show. I quit watching last season, because Amy is so hostile to Matt and I couldn't take it any more. Bottom line is that we are ALL flawed, but we have to find a way to deal with the flaws of our spouses. The outrageous disrespect Amy shows will only cause damage to her family. Does this woman really not know that a man values respect above most else? Or maybe she does, and this is her purposeful way of punishing Matt. How awful. They are in serious trouble and have been for some time. I think the disrespect I saw from Kate Gosselin was largely responsible for driving Jon away. I wonder if that is actually Amy's hope--that she will drive Matt away. Sure seems like it. I hope they read these message boards and have their eyes opened. I won't be watching again.

Its time for Amy to move on. I would be miserable too, if I had to live with such an irresponsible person as Matt is.

its just plain ridiculous the stupid things he does.
Family should of been more important to him than anything. If he is so scared he isnt gonna be around for much longer, than he shouldnt of been so worried about building castles and stuff. You cant take it with you when you go Matt.

Duh Matt, if you wonder why your wife is so miserable, look in the mirror.

Give me a break purple.

She belittles him, she humiliates him, she always takes her disrespectful brat of a son's side on everything, she undermines ANYTHING Matt tries to do for the family...

she's a pitiful excuse for a mother, Encouraging disrespect, encouraging sloppiness and laziness, being emotionally abusive to her husband...

if Matt was so bad, she should have gotten out years ago... Not be an abusive witch

What it all boils down to is this: Amy was teed off because the BVI trip wasn't HER idea. We all heard her tell Matt that SHE has scheduled HER kids' activities for the past 17 years. In other words, Matt overstepped his bounds by planning a trip without the Queen's permission. I can't believe there was NO way she could have backed out of that speaking engagement to go on the trip. I guaran-freaking-tee you that if the situation were reversed and SHE had planned a trip while Matt had a speaking engagement, she would have insisted he cancel it, or she would have taken HER kids and gone on HER trip without him and never have given it a second thought. The emotional havoc she wreaked on those kids and Matt was motivated purely by her own selfish need to be in control. She got her way but look at the cost... the kids' relationship with their father is so warped there's no hope of it ever being salvaged. Congratulations, Amy. You won. The emasculation of Matt is now complete.

I agree Amy and Zack were in their element tonight, it was so sad. I kept thinking of all the trips the family has taken without Matt. in fact earlier today there was a rerun of Amy and the kids visiting her family in Michigan without Matt. He stayed on the farm. I never once heard a thing from anyone saying they missed their dad or that Amy wished Matt was with them to share the time together as a whole family. But tonight it was, lets ruin this time with Matt because Amy didn't plan the trip and wasn't going to go. All I kept thinking he's falling apart and he wants to spend special time with his kids before he's physically unable to move around as much. What a terrible mess.

I too have just joined to post this. I have just watched my last episode of what has been one of my favorite shows. It is too painful to see yet another marriage fall apart and the children pick up the tab. Yes, Matt is no saint that is for sure! But listen Amy all you do is put him down and complain about all he does wrong which is everything. He has made a wonderful life for you and your children. Yet you have such a deep seething anger towards him that it really shows on the show. You manipulated your children to turn down a trip of a lifetime because you had scheduled a trip of your own on "THEIR" time off. What was more important than a family vacation? Yet you kept two of your children from going by your ranting. How sad! I felt so glad when I saw Jacob went against his siblings and your cornering him and enjoyed a wonderful trip with his father, brother and grandfather. Zach is so disrespectful to both you and Matt and this should be dealt with. He is just as raging as Amy. It is one thing to have your own opinion and to express it but he thinks he knows it all and comes off as a real smarty pants that doesn't yet have the life experiences to make such judgements. For God's sake he can't even make the grade in high school to get into college. You guys should try focusing him on that rather than pulling him into your adult problems. You are very wrong to place your children in the middle of your obvious marital discord! You guys need to get some intervention or this marriage will not make it and in fact is on its way out as we speak! Last season it got more painful to watch as Amy's complaints never ended. Amy reminds me of the mother that placed all her energy on her children and not so much on her marriage. Now that they are growing up she has nothing. Nothing in...Nothing out!I will no longer be tuning in because it is no lonter a pleasure to watch.