I'm 21, and work at a bar. Most of the customer base is 30 and older. Seeing as how I am there 6 days a week, with no other opportunities to go out, most of the guys I date are from there. My current flame is 40. Some people have been harrassing me about it and others are cool with it. I totally dig the guy, so why does this matter to some people? Any input would be appreciated.

Really doesn't matter to anyone except for you and the bf. Really the only setback is if you plan to get married and just making sure you understand that he is 20 year ahead of you. If all that is fine with you then you are ok.

In my opinion as long as your happy and its working for you age doesnt really matter... I personally would never go after someone old enough to be my parent (anyone more than 16yrs my senior) but thats a personal decision only you can make.

No!!!!If you get goosebumps everytime your with him??Do you melt when you think of him??? Do you miss each other when your apart??Age is just a number.True happyness is where ever you find it.True friends will worry but not pass judgement.Go for it

Hey all readers: Age doesn't matter to me because its about how you feel about yourself and about the person.My hubby and I are 12 years diffrence in age.Sometimes my hubby and I butt heads but then we get over it.I am 31 he is 43.

Hey all: I feel like the age thing shouldn't matter.My husband and I are 12 years apart in age.I know that my family had a problem with the age of my husband, before they got to know him.We are happily married 8 years and have a 31/2 year old son.

No, it should not matter to other people. Only to you. BUT think about it this way...when you are a young woman at 41, he will be 60. Ouch...that's provided you guys are planning on a future together.

It depends on your views and his. If you both enjoy the same type of life styles and have the same values and beliefs than it shouldn't matter. You can grow strong together. On the other hand - my husband was working in a bar when I met him - I'm 8 yrs. older than he is. I didn't want to date someone that young, but I finally did. We've been married 4 yrs. and together almost 7 yrs. - the age thing comes up sometimes. I think it may bother him. The one thing I have going for me is that most people think I'm younger than him.....he doesn't like that. But he was a smoker, got alot of sun exposure & drank too much....thus it has aged him. I will tell you this his immaturity has been the biggest challenge for me and the way he deals with my 3 other children. We have one child together who is 2 1/2 yrs. - but I'm finding that we differ on the way to raise him so that is stressful as well. I can never tell him how to address anything because he has an issue with my age and feels that I'm trying to tell him to do ( like his mom ). Thus, be careful - make sure you are two are on the same page concerning children, house cleaning& keeping, religion, families,hobbies and how you argue. Good Luck...

~i really dont think they matter. I mean age is just a number. there is almost five years difference between me and my guy and we have been together for a while. as long as you are both happy then it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks.

This might sound odd, but our age differences are 12 years, he's the older one and we've been together for 15 years & very happy. However, the one issue that we've got is his snoring. He didn't snore loudly or every night until about 3-4 years ago. Since then, he's gains a little weight (maybe 15-20 lbs), but he's 67. His doctor says that his snoring isn't sleep apnea. He's just older and he's going to snore.

Well, long story short. We've tried everything to help stop the snoring and nothing has worked. He even had the pillar surgery and that did nothing for him. Any ideas? The only thing that did help was when I got so frustrated that I actually taped his mouth shut one night. It worked, but he wasn't real happy when he woke up...

It really depends on what are you looking for. If you only want to date, age shouldn't be an issue. Yet,if we are talking about settling down in a serious relationship, the age might be a problem. For instance, you are 21, like me, you still have a long life ahead of you. But, if you are seeing some one around 40, what if one day he asks you to settle down with him and have kids? Are you ready for that?

See, currently, I have feelings for a 33 years-old guy. But sadly, I have to force myself to admit, he and I cannot be together. I don't picture myself sleeping next to him with our kids jumping around. I don't think he's picturing himself going to 6 Flags with me and wandering around in the mall.

So, in the end, it really depends on what you are looking for and what you want.