I an interested in a sexy book to get my wife aroused. The arousal is the key to great sex. We have seen a couple of videos [ guide to toys and sex } and my wife was really turned on. However a video isin't always convient [ 4 kids ]
Does anyone have any suggestions for some reading material for my wife?

I just finished readin this book, and not only was it insightful for me being a woman, but it was interresting and sexy. I found myself turned on by some things, because it was so real, and such an intimate set of monologues actually told by many women. I read it before bed...and it really put me in the mood, not to mention how much I learned to LOVE my Va.gina!!!

Reply for lovinghusband.
There was a time that I realized I needed an attitude adjustment and I used Romance reading to accomplish putting me back in the mindset of being the sexual person I use to be but I lost someplace while raising 3 kids. I just always have a book going.
Try some romance genre paperback/hardcover books.
Some review web sites even review sexual ratings-eg:R, NC-17, or rate with words: "Burning", Hot.
Harlequin has several series books: "Blaze", "Temptation", "Desire". Also Kensington "Brava" books. These are a series of Romance books in the Erotica/Sensual category like "Secrets" with Volume #'s 1, 2, 3, etc. that has three short stories in one book. I don't enjoy pain, torture, or ****sexual themes which some erotica does go into. Just give me the Alpha male that knows what he wants, and it is usually an innocent or inexperienced female he pursues and awakens to a sexual appetite she didn't know she had and of course then she knows what she wants. There are some favorite authors who know how to burn up the sheets or kitchen counter tops as it may be. BUt not all their writing would be in the Nc-17 or Burning hot. Some of their writing is just Pg-13 - warm. Check out these authors who usually have their own web sites too: Suzanne Brockmann she has two series of books that deal with multiple characters that are part of Navy Seal teams, and each book will have several team members in the book but focusing on one of the men in that team. I think they are called "Trouble s*******" and "Special Team #??"(www.suzannebrockmann.com), Lori Foster, Janelle Denison, Cherry Adair (In Too Deep, Hide and Seek), Linda Howard (MacKenzie's Mountain Series, Angel Creek, After the Night, most all her books), Karen Robards (Midnight Hour, etc), Heather Graham (Captive, Runaway, One Wore Blue, One Wore Gray, etc.) , Elizabeth Lowell (Only Mine, Only Yours, etc.), Vicki Lewis Thompson, Thea Devine, Robin Schone, Sandra Brown, Alison Kent (All Tied UP),Jennifer Cruise, Candace Schuller, Emma Holly, Susan JOhnson, and many more. I like books with happy endings, sexual tension, intimate dialog, sensuous behavior. I'm not looking for intellectual stimulation but physical and sexual attitude. A mindset of sorts. A place to put aside, laundry, house, work and think on just two people, male and female, relating to each other on a physical, sexual level. Where there is a chemistry, attraction. I'm sure there are romantics out there that get the picture. I get words, ideas, to challange myself into action to go after "what I now want" This reading is for enjoyment only.

in my last post "Romance Reading" two words were edited. One was ****sexual and I am assuming this will be edited again, but it is the relationship between two people of the same gender. I am confused by that word was taken out. I wonder if heterosexual would be allowed, meaning two people of different gender. The comment using the word was not a slander, but a statement of personal preference. The other word which really supprise me was "Trouble shooter", maybe it should be one word: Troubleshooter" meaning a person or persons who iron out problems, as in this reference to a book where Navy SEALs go into problem situations to iron out the problems and find solutions.
Now I know that when I see "****" it does not mean the word edited has only four letters.
Thanks anyway.

A few years back, I needed a "kick in the arousal" rear end. A friend suggested a book titled "Mistaken" or "Miss Taken". I can't remember which, but I remember the book vividly! It's not the usual romance novel, it's more of a sexual fantasy book, loaded with forbidden story lines. From the first page, the book aroused either me or my husband. The book is by Anonymous...hmmmm...I wonder why???

I recommend yaoi! By women, for women.
If you don't know what it is:
http://www.yaoicon.com/whatisyaoi.htm
http://www.aestheticism.com/

^_^

I have a question about this sexy reading and Yaoi stuff. what is the difference between this and pornography? By definition, both of these are pornography. Where do we draw the line? What rights do men have and what do women have when it comes to porn. Several of the posts in this forum are from women worrying becasue their husbands are into porn. What is the difference between tese men looking at women on the internet and these women reading about the perfect man in a novel or looking at an animated Gay couple at some ***** anime site? I am not going to say what I think about this, but I would like to know what the standard is. Sorry if I have offended anyone, I did not mean any offense. I recently had trouble with one of my posts and I am not trying to start any. I would just like to know what responsibilities women have when it comes to pornography.

Some of it can be pornographic, yeah, but when it comes to some of the stories, I don't think it would be any different than reading romance novels with sex scenes...except that maybe the women don't have to compare themselves to the women in the stories because there aren't any.
As for the comics/anime/art, it just depends...some of it can be graphic, and some can be very beautiful, romantic, and non graphic...and some of it can be really badly drawn, heh. Avoiding bad yaoi is a good thing.

I can only give my perspective on the general subject-and I apologize to lovinghusband for replying to a reply on his post-but I seem to see a bit of a double standard in the replies. All the women who I have seen post on topics relating to their boyfriends of husbands looking at porn have reacted very strongly opposed to allowing thier husbands and boyfriends to continue this. Why do men look at pornagraphy? The main reason is because they are visually turned on more than women are. I'll bet that not many of the men who look at pornagraphy would even touch the women involved if they got the chance, and I doubt that they would even like their girlfriend or wife any more if they resembled the women in the stuff they look at or watch. Can you women say the same thing? That you are satisfied with your men the way they are or do want them to be more "romantic" like the men in Your stories? the motivations behind looking at or reading pornagraphy are the same for men and women: to get turned on and aroused. The only difference is in the means. Men look at naked women, while women read about the perfect man or the perfect encounter, possibly pretending to be with someone other than their partner. This is just as possible for men to do, I am not saying that only women do this. I am saying that women hold a double standard when it comes to porn, and I think many people need to redefine the meaning of pornagraphy and look at the motivations behind their actions before they judge what they themselves, and other people look at or read.

I see so many people have looked at this post, but hardly any have put anything into the discussion. I know my last post did not contribute to the original question and I apologize for that. Would anyone like to start a discussion about this as a new topic??

If it puts either one in the mood for sex, and keeps the marriage spicy. What dose it matter as long as it dosen't become some kind of sick obsession with either one. Pornagraphy is not real. We know this. With PhotoShop and digital editing anyone can look great. My husband finds porno mags in the trash all the time. I find them under his pillow. I leave them there. Sometimes even joke with him about it. Maybe, I'm just not the jealous type. As for porno flicks, I don't find the naked ape haveing sex very attractive.LOL But if he wants to watch it. I tell him, " When I'm not around Please"
As for me I don't get aroused with any of it.

In so many ways, this would depend on what "works" for your wife! There's a whole genre of books out there called "historical romances" that are supposed to be highly sensual, and they bore me to tears!
You could check out the books and short stories and Ellora's Cave (www.ellorascave.com). There are different kinds of stories by all kinds of authors.
Otherwise, I can suggest a few of my favorites, but remember - if the stories don't "speak" to her heart as well, she might not enjoy them!

Sexy Fiction
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The Dark Highlander by Karen Marie Moning
Mystery Lover by Sherrilyn Kenyon
Dance with the Devil by Sherrilyn Kenyon
Too Much Temptation by Lori Foster
Pearl Island by Elizabeth Lowell
Kiss and Tell by Cherry Adair
Warrior's Bride by Nina Bruhns (Silhouette)
Mr. Perfect by Linda Howard
MacKenzie's Mission by Linda Howard
A Kiss of Shadows by Laurell K. Hamilton
A Caress of Twilight by Laurell K. Hamilton
Rejar by Dara Joy
Her Secret Thrill by Donna Kauffman (Harlequin)
The Sweetest Taboo! by Alison Kent (Harlequin)
Packed with Pleasure by Lori Wilde (Harlequin)

Erotica for Women
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Cajun Heat by Nikita Black
Oath of Seduction by Marly Chance (Ellora's Cave)
Tempting the Beast by Lora Leigh (Ellora's Cave) - her stuff's hot, but can be heavy in domination
Aunt Penelope's Harem by Chris Tanglen (Ellora's Cave)
Wilde Thing by Janelle Denison
I Love Bad Boys (anthology)

Okay, okay, that's enough! Good luck - hope this helps!