My live-in bf of 2 yrs. has been sort of distant the past few mos. I attributed it to the fact that he has a lot of change going on in his life right now and he doesnt do well with change. Also, we normally are like a couple of rabbits and lately he isnt really interested. All summer I have been trying to give him space so this just seems weird that he is acting like this. Finally I demanded to know what was wrong and he tells me he isnt happy with anything or anyone (including me) in his life right now and wants to be "friends" and sleep in separate beds, do our laundry separate etc until he figures out what is wrong with him. He says he has no interest in sex or anything else he normally does. I dont know what to think. He says he still loves me and doesnt want me to move out and this is just about him. He wants to just take care of himself and be alone but not date anyone else. I am all for him doing what he says he needs to do...growing up and being more responsible for himself but I just think this is so drastic. The biggest issue we had of late was a preggers scare which he freaked over. What do you think? Should I stick this out and just chalk it up to his trying to grow up and figure stuff out or what? I dont want to lose him!

Yea it would freak me out too I thought I got a girl pregnant that I was not married to. The whole reality of his situation just splashed cold water in his face. Either get married or move on.

this story sounds familiar to me too - except my boyfriend and i do not live together and did not have a pregnancy scare - but everything else sounds exactly the same - it's scary! let me know if you find something otu - because now my boyfriend and i are at the point that he broke up with me but doesn;t want to date anyone else and still wants to be friends and date me later - i am the one for him he says - so let me know what you find out please

I had a similar situation happen after my husband and I were married for about 2.5 years. It was horrible, he said he was not happy and that he wanted a divorce and now we have been togeter 9 years and married 5 and he sleeps on the couch every night unless he needs sex or I persistently ask him to sleep with me. I feel very lonely, empty and bad now. You should consider whether you want to live like that forever or not because it may never change.

When I was in college, my bf went through the same thing. He wanted space but didn't want to give up on our relationship. So I gave him space. We broke up and just stayed friends even though it was really hard for me. He did some things that I wasn't thrilled about (like getting beyond wasted every night) but he got it out of his system. After a couple of months he was happy, we got back together and everything was fine. That was about 3 years ago. We are now married and are close to our 1 year anniversary.

Also, my step-sister went through the samething with her bf. They broke up for a few months, he did stupid stuff (got piercings, got wasted) and now they are back together and happy.