Okay this is probably gonna make some of you laugh but its a serious issue to me.The other day my hubby (of 8yrs) and I were out shopping and I told him that I needed to purchase a new bra and he said fine whatever.well when I started holding up all the sexy and slinky versions he had the nerve to tell me that I was too old for stuff like that.I'm only 37 and I'm a 42D so I took this really as a put down.It really broke my heart to hear him say that and I asked him why he felt thay way and he said what difference does it make anyway the only one who will be seeing it is the two of us.I'm 4 yrs older than him and sometimes he makes the old woman joke and **** like that.I know that I'm an attractive woman cos I get asked out alot.Don't get me wrong I'm not bragging but it hurts cos sometimes he makes me feel like I'm all used-up and boring.I try soooo hard to look young and sexy for him but I guess I'm doing something wrong.Please someone give me some pointers.I just want to feel special and wanted by him.I've tried talking to him about this stuff but he just says whatever.Your just being silly (yada,yada,yada!!!)What should I do?

JuJu Holiday, you're 37 and probably a great looking woman! At any age a woman should own her sexuality! You cannot allow your husband to get away with negative comments about your age! He is only four years younger...well, it also sounds like he's very immature. If you want to wear sexy clothes do it! If you're into wearing sexy clothes and your husband doesn't like it, He's the old one honey, not you!You should not try to look younger and sexy for him. Your husband has to know that his insulting comments are hurting you. If he really doesn't have a clue, you should try shooting insulting barbs at him to see how he likes it. Then tell him why you're doing it and start a conversation about dos and don'ts. If that doesn't work, I say drop your husband and go out and find a real man who appreciates a hot, sexy woman!

Okay, so I agree with the first part of ladyzen's message, except she left out one important point. She told you not to dress, a certain way for him, that is true but what you really keep in mind is to do things for you, like she said, if it makes YOU feel good. Your husband should love you for who you are and not say things that demean you. I've been forced to go through fashion changes recently and my husband even went out and bought me like 20 pairs of panties (even though he hates the style) just because I can no longer wear the ones I like. That's what a loving partner is supposed to do, even if they really don't like the idea.

Thanks for the feedback ladies.Sometimes I think my hubby is brain-dead when it comes to romance.I made it perfectly clear the day after his not so nice comment that I didn't appreicate his rude behaviour.I also made it clear to him that I was not gonna dress like his Granny just because I'm 37 and we now have a 2 yr.old son.He got the message loud and clear that if he wanted to focus on his age then go for it but I'm still a young woman and I intend on enjoying my life to its fulliest.He used to go out to Victoria's Secret and purchase the sexy stuff but ever since our son has been born he acts all uptight.I think its time we take a (much)needed vacation alone.Thanks again for the words of encouragement.

You did right in telling him. What he said was not very thoughtful at all. I talked to boyfriend about your post as well and he said that guy was just very...weird and stupid. Why woulnd't he want his wife to try and look sexy for him? You were wanting a night of fun together and you wanted to wear something that you thought would be nice for him. But you have no reason to feel anything bad about. He just should pay more attention to your feelings.

OK, got to chime in here. You say you're 37, well, I'm almost 57 and I love sexy undies, especially lace, and lucky me, so does my hubby and he's almost 64, But if he didn't, I'de probably tell him not to look. I feel good with sexy underwear on, even if no one else knows it. Buy what you want to wear, being a little reasonalbe, like don't buy screaming red if you have nothing to wear them under (I don't wear red, I'm a redhead) but black (definitely), blues, blush, champagne (Oh, yeah) and enjoy how you feel with them on.

why are you dressing to please him? Doesn't sound like he knows the game! Dress for yourself! Life is too short!! Tell him to wear something to bed and I bet he picks his baggy old unders!!!

You ladies will be sooooo proud of me.I went out today and bought myself some sexy stuff.He hasn't seen them yet cos he's at work.We're taking a much needed mini-vacation next weekend.I need feed-back on this.Should I save them and surprise him then or do it this weekend?He works unbelieveable hrs and I know that he's exhausted all the time so should I just wait until he's rested up?The most important thing is that I actually felt good about how I looked in them.We've really lost touch since we've became parents and this job is really a *****.We had a serious talk and we've both agreed that we need to focus on us for a while and wake-up the passion.Believe me it used to be there.So give me some ya or nays on when to pull out the undies.

I think it is up to you when you think is the best moment. You said he is tired because he works a lot...maybe wait and surprise him when he's rested up when you both take a break to spend time together. Either way, it's up to you. And it's good that you talked to him about wanting to wake up the passion. Just because you are parents, doesn't mean that the romance and passion should be gone. You just need to reignite it. Good luck!