Wow, I dont know where to begin. My girlfriend and I of 2 years now have been going through some rough times,caused by me. Basically about a year ago, i called an ex g/f and she found out, threatened to leave and i told i would not talk to her anymore and i would make it up to her. So we fixed things and were back together and over the past year she has asked me to show her more affection and attention and of course i didnt...so we kept getting in fights about it..well i proposed to her before we moved to florida, and she said yes! After about 4 months here, she said she was going to go see her parents back in AZ. Well, since she had such a hard time getting a job here, we both kind of agreed that it would better for her to stay there for awhile. So she left and once there she said it was over, and her reasons were cause of me walking all over her and me not showing enough attention and affection. I convinced her to give it another chance cause i would change back to the way they were at first. So after about a month a girl started talking to me online and she obvisouly wanted more...i only wanted to talk to another female about my situation to get her perspective. So as you can guess she found out and i had to tell the other girl not to talk to me anymore!
Here is the kicker, i signed up for the online dating thing, yea she found out, but i was not really doing it to find someone, just kind of browsing. She was devastaated by that, she said she would be with me, and we have been talking and things were starting to get better, and now she has meet someone else, although she says it is nothing and she does not want a relationship. just dating. I realized when she left to AZ that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, and i missed her and took her for granted. It hurt me so much to see her leave. I found out that i hvae/had a commitment problem in relationships. I want to marry her, but she says i have to earn and prove to her that i want her, just to get another chance. I love her SO MUCH, i messed up really bad.
I am wondering what anyone else's feelings are on this...and if it is possible to save, which i want to, what could i show or prove to her. I want her back...and i want to get therapy to fix my commitment phobia, which is why i kept steering away from her. PLEASE HELP
It is just so hard to move on, and i feel like my heart will not let me. I am not sure that I need to move on.
~KS
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Well, it does not matter anymore, she has told me to mmove on and not to call or talk to her anymore. The pain is something SO INCREDIBLE. How do other people deal with this kind of loss? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!
yea...find that girl online again. good riddance, and I feel sorry for the next guy in her life. you didnt need a woman who was so insecure that she searched for you all over the net. sooo, are all the women from Arizona this dry???
HAHA, thanks for the advice! I have found out that she was talking to another guy while she was still here, and she has also slept with this new guy of hers...so more power to her. It was painful, but glad it is over now. Although, I do feel bad for the next woman in my life, because there will be that wall. You live and learn!!
Not all women are that dry. LOTS of interesting and cool ones there.
