i need some advice. i know you have heard of the term above .this guy and i knew each other from high school but back then i was in a relationship. i never knew that he liked me until last year when i found him on myspace. i went to see him and we had sex. then through out the year, we'd meet and do it again, most of the times, traveling 130 miles. when we are together it's like we are dating but not. we like the same everything but never make an official connection about it.its been over a year of benefits and we still cant wait to see each other. Almost like booty calls but there are hidden feelings. i know, sounds dumb but i cant stop thinking about him.wanting to text him but not to be clingy. we both have busy lives but drop everything for each other. Heres what he does that i dont get: He pays for the food Wiped a tear outta my eye Told me i could do anything to him Skipped a night of boxing with his boys to be with me Invited me to his moms and then said that she liked me Gave me loving kisses on my back when i stayed the night Cleaned all the hair off his sink cause he knew i was coming but asked did i notice Told me the soap in his shower was in the same spot i left it Always lights this one candle we bought together. I purposely left a towel there, he noticed then,hung it up near his behind the door. Ya bored yet.....well, i kinda hinted about my feelings but he's not really saying much. Just his actions say otherwise. He's a gamer, with a great job.....his last relationship resulted in a baby.....he was definately a giver and still is, but the other woman took advantage........ To sum it up.....think he loves me but is not saying it?
Your issue can be looked at in two different ways depending on if you are a glass half full or half empty type of person.
HALF FULL POINT OF VIEW: He has been in a very tough relationship which resulted in fatherhood and a woman that took advantage of him. So he probably is shell shocked and is healing from that experience and is hesitent in making moves to get close with another woman. Maybe time will heal his wounds and your persistence in providing him with an opportunity to have a great relationship with you will eventually pay off.
HALF EMPTY POINT OF VIEW: This guy loves all the benefits of having a girl give him everything he needs in life without having to make any committments whatsoever. Why would he want to change his perfect situation? He can come and go as he pleases, owes you no excuses of where he has been, who he was out with, what he does with his money, etc - and still gets all the benefits of having a wife. Sounds pretty exciting and if you push for a relationship be ready for a hard fall to the ground when he cuts the cord on this relationship.
