I'm a 35 y/o mother of two (13 and 3) and I raised my son on Steve Irwin. I can't think of a better role model. I, seriously, have been in mourning for the whole 3 weeks. I have cried at least once everyday and my husband thinks I'm obsessed...and I guess I am. I went to Steve and Terri's zoo site the other day and the first thing I noticed was that they are having a Halloween special event for all the kids that come to the zoo. What struck me as odd and what made me sad...was that life was going on without Steve. My heart and my mind rebelled! "How could this be???" I told my mom, "if life should stop for anything or anyone, it should be for this man!!" Please don't take this as an affront to the zoo or any of the family. It's not that life shouldn't continue - Steve would SO want that, it's just that he was so FULL of life and contributed so much to life that it seems impossible that it did not stop..at least to me. After making that observation to my mom, she and I remembered a poem that was read in the movie, Four Weddings and a Funeral - that poem, is the way I feel. I want to share it (in complete love and adoration for Steve and his family). Thank you for letting me be a part of this.
Stop all the Clocks (or Funeral Blues)
Stop all the clocks cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead, Put crêpe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now; put out every one; Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun; Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood; For nothing now can ever come to any good.
Many many blessings Mate! Brande Mora and Family (San Antonio, TX)
wow peehlbug! That poem depicts how I'm feeling as well. I ask myself, "How could the rest of the world laugh and play, and go on?". The fact that such a lively, passionate man has passed, makes me feel like whatever positive energy was left, is now gone
I guess I'll keep coming here everyday. I loved the post about the guy who couldn't get over it - remember how my hubby thinks I'm obsessed? I find this forum very therapeutic - and yet I have guilt because it took his death for us to talk about how much we love him (or at least me). I was very relieved to see Bindi on the memorial service on Tuesday - I'm glad she was still her happy self. Terri looked stoic to me - but, bless her heart, I bet she's cried out after 3 weeks. I pray for her a lot - I cannot imagine living without my husband - who is also much of a character! Love to you all!
I feel the same way peelbuhg. When my husband comes home from work I'm glued to the tv watching either croc hunter or his memorial crying my eyes out. He thinks I am crazy and often says I hope you cry like this when I die. I just look at him and wonder why he can't understand why I am still mourning of this wonderful man. I feel so much better being on the forum and reading all the post that are much like mine. I know I'm not alone!
I too raised my 11 year old daughter on Steve Irwin. We were all so sad about his passing but I just cannot stop crying. I have lost so many things in the past couple of years and lived through them but I never expected to lose my larger than life hero. I have been accused of obsessing too by people but you know what, I don't care. If it is someone you truly do believe in and care about you never get over their loss and Steve Irwin was one in a million to me and my family. I will never stop being sad but I do think its important for life to move forward not move "on" as some put it. You never move on but you do continue with this big celebration we call life. Every day should be a celebration and a death like this should serve to remind us all of how truly precious it is to have life. I think it will be good for Terri and her kids and all the zoo family to celebrate something. What better way than watching kids dress up and enjoy the zoo with thier families. Steve loved his zoo so much, and he adored kids so I say YAY go ahead and party, celebrate and have as much joy in that zoo as all of you out there possibly can. We will celebrate right along with you.
My husband also thinks Im a nut case. he gets this look on his face anytime I bring up Steves name, or the latest thing about him or the family or when I have tears in my eyes and he asks why. he says "your glorifying him up to be on some pedestal, like the world revoveld around him. He was a rgeat guy, and did great things, but he was just another guy. bad things happen" I said "the world doesn't revolve around him, the world would have continued to revolve because of him. who is going to speak up for the helpless, loved less animals like he did? Who is going to preserve habitats by buying acreages to save them for the plants and animals that inhabit them? nobody cares about them like he did and fought for them, and dedeicated thier entire being to them like he did. nobody was like him and the world is a sorryier place to be now that he's gone. you just dont get it. Why a beautiful person like that has to die when thier are loser dangerous criminals continuing to walk our streets is beyond me. you'd think it was about those losers got what they deserved and been plucked from thier lives so the lovely can live and continue to do good things. He had so much left to do..he was a wonderful caring honest incredible person...he was taken from his beautiful little babies and wonderful wife who was his soul mate. Its not at all fair. Why him?? You just don't get it, how its killing me." So seeing as my husband seems to look at death as natural and it just happens, and I choose to ask why and mourn for the wonderful people we have lost that should still be here, i dont much discuss this with him anymore. Glad there are others like me, who have decent marriages and loving husbands who may be great people, but just don't get it. Thank you.
I am lucky, my husband just put up with me and didn't say anything about me being ( and still being) upset. I will tell him something and he says " I know babe, he was a great guy. I thought the world of him too." But I found out what a great guy I am married too when we last minute found out that the service was being televised and he was on his way to bed ( he wakes up at like 5:00 for work )he came back over and sat down with me.As I sobbed he sat quietly. Then it came time for Steve to "leave " the crocoseum for the last time.And while he packed up Steve's gear onto the truck I heard something and looked over and there sat my big strong husband, sobbing right along with me. After Brian pulled Steve's truck out and everyone stood and clapped, my husband looked at me with tears rolling down his cheeks and said " It just REALLY hit me, that he is really gone. This is it the Crocoseum won't ever be the same." With no disrespect to Terri, I think it is really not hard to fall in love with this guy, even if you are another guy.. He is an exceptional human being who always was an angel on earth. The only differance now is that Steve gets to wear his wings on the outside. And Terri is just as exceptional to have never tried to make Steve something differant and to have shared her wonderful husband with the world... The crocodiles TRULY are crying...and so am I.!!! Michelle from Philly,Pa.
Man I love hearing from you all! Michelle, what a great hubby - so sweet. Please don't misunderstand me, my hubby also loved Steve and he did watch the memorial with me on Tuesday (and he replayed it today on his PC when I sent him the link) - I just want to state that for the record, because he'll probably read this and be like...HEY! hahaha!
You're right men and women and children - we all love Steve. I really loved how Russell Crowe spoke directly to him, like he can hear us. I sure hope so - I hope he's wrapped in adoring hugs in heaven! I hope he gets to "feel" what we feel down here so he realizes that we all miss him so. I bet he and and his Mum are both so happy to be reunited as well. Thanks for being my "Steve" pals - even in death, he manages to bring people together in a common bond. Amazing.
My family also thinks that I am obsessed over Steve's death, just yesterday my 21 year old daughter came over and saw me watching the tv guide special on Steve and said "you're not still obsessing over this are you?" It has been everyday since his death that my family has heard me talk about him,watch him on tv, or read an article about him. I just can't get enough and I feel like I need to see him or hear his voice on tv everyday. It makes me feel better but only briefly. Then the sickening feeling sets in that he is no longer on this earth,and I still wonder why. The Memorial service made me feel a little better (i think), but the grief and pain in Terri's face is something that I can't get out of my mind. It hurts me so much,I can't even imagine how she feels. Not only her but all of his family,(zoo family included), I have NEVER in my life been so affected by anyone's death,it is so very difficult to comprehend.
I know how you feel, I really miss Steve like a family member! It hurts me the most to know that we wont get the chance to meet him. I cry mostly at night when i think about it, my husband did the first day when he heard, but he's fine now. Not to say he's not sad about it. I'm more spiritual than religous, but I believe, that Steve does hear our cries and does feel our pain, but also he does feel our love and he hears us as well. Keep sending him love and to his family and friends and animals. Take it all day by day. No there will never be another man like Steve, that's why it hurts so bad. The World fell in love with Steve, as much as Steve loved this world.
Thanks cynalex for your words and support. I will try to take it day by day and hope that Steve does feel our outpouring of love, If you or anyone that replied to this topic wants someone to email so we can support each other through this my email address is hyttrhnd@yahoo.com.
Yes, you are very true that life didn't stop. Even if you search "Steve Irwin" on google, you do get some stories on his death, but the majority of it is the incident with baby Bob back in 2004. It breaks my heart that it seems a bigger deal with the baby Bob incident than now when he is dead. On the Zoo's case, i don't blame them. Today I was watching an episode of the Crocadile Hunter and I was so enthrolled in it, I forgot Steve had past away and those horrible memories felt like a bad dream. When it was over i was convinced I just thought he was dead, but when i went online i saw that horrible headline again, "Croc Hunter Dies at Age of 44" I think everyone is trying their best to cope with it. If anyone wants to email me, my email is Krazyindian187@aol.com
Krazyindian you are so right...that's exactly what I have been doing. I watch a show and in the middle of just CRACKING up over something Steve just did...I feel my eyes well up again because I realize he's gone. Even the other night when he did his Belize special and he jumped right in with the snake in the water and started wrangling it by the tail I found myself yelling at the TV - "STEVE!! Cut it out your're gonna get hurt!" But I really liked what you said KI - about reading the headline vs. reading the website who are still celebrating his life and not his death. Thanks for the words, I totally appreciate what you're saying.
Love to you all!
