I wanted to create this topic, to talked about people fear in life. Fear can be described by different terms in accordance with its relative degrees. Personal fear varies extremely in degree from mild caution to extreme phobia and paranoia.

People fear things or situations that make them feel unsafe or unsure. For instance, someone who isn't a strong swimmer might have a fear of deep water. In this case, the fear is helpful because it cautions the person to stay safe. Many people have a fear of public speaking. Whether it's giving a report in class, speaking at an assembly, or reciting lines in the school play, speaking in front of others is one of the most common fears people have. Some fear of flying on being on a plane while in flight. Fear in involves the fear of enclosed or confined spaces. Some people fear the end of the world, some fear even death.

Share with the members what is the most things that makes you shiver to the bone, and share any anecdote of what fears you had overcome throught life.

Question:
What is the thing that you feel most afraid of in life ?

Choices:
I fear nothing.
Not certain if you fear anything.
I fear a few things.
I fear only about heights.
I fear almost everything

 

My biggest fear is depending on other people. This day and age too many don't care about anything and when you really need to depend on them it will get you in the end.

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My biggest fear is depending on other people. This day and age too many don't care about anything and when you really need to depend on them it will get you in the end.

Rellyb, you couldn't had sait it more right, you hit it on the nail. That got to be one of the strongest fear in my life, definitely. IT has happened to me more than once, that I had to depend upon people(especially family members/ a few friends) pretty bad. Cause sometimes people dissapoint you, whne they need your help, they come to you with wide open arms, but when the situation is in reverse they turned your back on you.
Thankfully I came out of that situation (about a year ago), right about now i'm standing in my two own feets, doing fine moved out to another city. I'm independent, bought my own home.

Other fears that to me, seem a lot less worse than depending on people are about heights nothing else. Who's not afraid of heights, probably a lot of people in here probably estimating 50% or more are afraid to that more than anything else in life.

The worst thing that people might be afraid of in life, is being buried alive. That got to be one of the worst feelings that could happen to a person. A person trapped without air to breathe must be aweful, for the victim to comprehend and imagine every stage of what is happening (being trapped in total darkness with very limited or no movement) and to experience great psychological and physical torment including panic and extreme claustrophobia.

There is a lot of movies portraiting this method, Kill-Bill II, and in one CSI episode it depicted one csi team, being buried alived as a method of torture.

But could a person be buried accidentally ?

I would place being so disabled as to be totally helpless, unable to do anything whatsoever without artificial assistance, with nothing really wrong except your body can't work anymore, and there's no hope of a cure, and only a long lingering wasting away to look forward to.
A healthy mind in a useless body.

I sorta fear trusting other people...I guess it is my cynical recessiveness...I don't see why i have it... I'm not obese(cant spell that), or ugly, or abused(except for some bullies some long time ago I can't remember) but, I just surround myself with the freinds I have and leave the rest of the world to go on. Maybe its just because most people are dumb, assuming, and incencitive...my only other fear is of falling and not dieing right away... to have to suffer, and have noone hear you...

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I sorta fear trusting other people...

I would re-phrase a wise saying that I heard on the movie, "Italian Job". Trust everyone but don't trust the devil inside them.

I guess that it means, you could trust someone but don't let your trust totally blindfold you towards them, because that might lead to a very dangerous roads.

As for me, I never had a problem with trust, never had a friend who would betray a trust while on the quest to hurt me, lucky I guess.

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totally helpless, unable to do anything whatsoever without artificial assistance, with nothing really wrong except your body can't work anymore

Pretty much describes Stephen Hawking.

When I read the topic, a quote ran through my head... "What's the worst they can do? Eat you?"

The vast majority of people fear death in any form. I personally do not fear death, but I suppose you could say that I fear the pain associated with dying... especially if the method of death was, say, burning alive.

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Originally posted by denverd0n:

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totally helpless, unable to do anything whatsoever without artificial assistance, with nothing really wrong except your body can't work anymore

Pretty much describes Stephen Hawking.

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I know many people who've died of ALS, my father among them, and Hawking is really odd, for the sheer longevity in his condition.
Usually it's about 2 years, and you're gone.
The idea of being totally trapped in a completely useless body is awful!
Hawking is definitely the exception, for whatever reason, but there's other such afflictions, like Parkinson's, and Alzheimers.. the combination is probably as bad as ALS, talking to the caregivers who have to maintain those afflicted.

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When I read the topic, a quote ran through my head... "What's the worst they can do? Eat you?"

The vast majority of people fear death in any form.

The facts about death and dying are among the most emotional and complex
topics of childhood an adult alike. Personally, I think that people fear death is for where it comes to dying is simply what method will take me across? Some aprehension, of course, of walking into the unknown-- or floating... or not being... or whatever happens on the other side.

Fear of death is mainly because its difficult concept to grasp/ understand of death, where do you go ? Does heaven or hell exist ? Some psychologists have addressed the hypotheses that fear of death may motivate one’s basic religious commitment, and on the other hand, may be allayed by some but not all religious orientations due to the religion's assurances about afterlife.

Ok, Im afarid of what happens after death, or simply, the unknown. But I also have an extreme (and unrational) phobia of needles. I can't look at them. If someone talks about them, my nerves stand on end. If someone even talks about me getting a needle, I start to hyperventalte or get really really angery

I think my only fear is being "trapped" where I am completely conscious of EVERYTHING, but cannot move, react, speak, respond.

Other than that, I honestly don't know how I'd react if my children died before I did. I don't really know how I'd respond if they went after me...but I fear burying my own flesh and blood.

I don't fear much of the physical, though; I used to be afraid of heights, that sense of "falling endlessly"...but came to realize, "what's the worst that can happen? I die?"

I don't know what happens after death, so i don't think about it, if it happens, it happens.

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Originally posted by staplesc:
Ok, Im afarid of what happens after death, or simply, the unknown. But I also have an extreme (and unrational) phobia of needles. I can't look at them. If someone talks about them, my nerves stand on end. If someone even talks about me getting a needle, I start to hyperventalte or get really really angery

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I get blood tests every 3 months. The needles are a necessary part of helping me survive.
Not worth getting upset about, it's for my benefit, after all.

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Originally posted by Ming, Merciless the:

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Originally posted by staplesc:
Ok, Im afarid of what happens after death, or simply, the unknown. But I also have an extreme (and unrational) phobia of needles. I can't look at them. If someone talks about them, my nerves stand on end. If someone even talks about me getting a needle, I start to hyperventalte or get really really angery

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I get blood tests every 3 months. The needles are a necessary part of helping me survive.
Not worth getting upset about, it's for my benefit, after all.

Oy, easier said than done. I hate needles, but as my last blood-tester pointed out, "do you have any tattoos?"

"oh hellyeah!"
"What were you like when you got them?"
"Hell, I flexed like I was Hulk Hogan and told 'im to give me everything she had!"
"Well, it's like that-"

But the concept of a hypodermic needle... it's not a matter of pain; it's the idea that you are consciously allowing a penetration into you that you know is either directly taking from your bloodstream, or putting something in.

I always get into this argument with a buddy with CF....he sees needles and says, "meh?". I see 'em and say, "come on, doc, can't ya just ...tell me to walk it off?"

But I'm the same way with pills; I don't even take advil, even when i had meningitis...didn't see the doc until i collapsed ...mom came up to College Station...long story...Doc; "At this point, all we can do is let it pass. He isn't dead yet, so he'll probably live."... I can laugh about it now.

oy..no pills, no needles. unnatural.
as I smoke more than I should, drink like "fuggit", and view sex as a natural art-form; poetry in motion; and I speak my own language. Perspective's a muthah. not worth getting upset about, of course....but I ain't you, and you ain't me. And in the end, we're all gonna die anyway. lol

The scariest thing in the world is the unknown. Given enough information, we can imagine we can exercise some measure of control over a given situation or thing. Without that information, we imagine this situation or thing is capapble of anything, often much more than its actual capabilities later reveal.

Smaller people tend to be afraid of larger people even in not-so-hostile situations, because we imagine their capabilities to be rather greater than they likely actually are, and consequently underestimate our own in response.

Of all the things unknown or unknowable, the biggest of these is death, hence our penchant for religion and superstition.

There's nothing to fear but fear itself.

No-one fears the unknown...Its what happens when we find the unkown that makes the scary stuff happen...as the CIA once said...those who know to much, die.(Movie Quote)My earlier post said that I was scared of trusting people...its not that I cant trust others, Its what I learned from personal experience that tells me that this person I am talking to might some day stab me in the back...This is why I am anti-social

OK, Halfwit, there is nothing inherently wrong with being anti-social; I'm built along the same lines. What I said, however, is true: People fear what they don't know. It is for this reason that racism exists and persists, because we don't know "them" and their ways seem a bit strange to us. We don't understand them because we know little or nothing of the reasons behind these ways and people. Thus, much is left to the imagination.

It is this facet of the human psyche that military strategists use to spook the enemy into giving up or retreating in battle. We give out misinformation in the hopes of making the enemy think we are more capable than we actually are, and it works (sometimes).

People fear death, in part, because we don't know what happens when a person dies. The main reason is that it goes against our instinct for survival at all costs, but the fact is it is what may lie beyond death that scares us the most. This is why you see all the posts in this forum about ghosts and such. We hear all this garbage in our childhood about what our fates may be and we want to know for sure, so that we may exercise some control over our fates.

The unknown is the scariest thing anyone can ever face in life. This is the root cause of phobias, among other things. We know little or nothing about the thing we are afraid of, so, in our minds, we exaggerate the danger posed by the object or situation in question. If we are given a little info about that which we fear, we imagine we can exercise some control over the thing and, so, become less fearful of it.

Imagine you are treeking through the jungle and you come across a cave. You know that all sorts of things exist in this jungle that can hurt or kill you and you have met some of them. The cave is deep and pitch-black. From the outside, you can see only a few feet into the cave. How do you feel at this moment? Are you happy? ("Yippee! I found a dangerous place!") Or sad? ("Doggone it, no lights.") More than likely, you are afraid. There may be something in that cave capable of doing you serious harm, if it wished to do so.

Now, let's imagine you find a light switch inside the cave entrace. You turn the lights on and... Voila! There's only a couple of house cats in the cave. OK, we know how to deal with housecats. We are now far less fearful than what we were.

Your own admission proves my point: You are anti-social, fearful of people, because you don't know what the other person's motives are at any given time. You fear that someone may try to take advantage of you, so you keep them at an emotional distance. You know roughly who this person is, but you know little beyond this and, so, you find it hard to trust. You need the experience of knowing this person for some time and, even so, you will never completely trust him or her. It's not what you know about this person that you fear, but what you DON'T know, which allows your imagination to run amok.

I rest my case.

I agree with Halfwit on the anti social thing. When some one you trust stabs you in the back, you tend to withdraw from society. But, as for my fears, I hate briges and dark water. I try to avoid those places at all costs. With all the stuff happening to the world today, It sets me on edge.